Herpes and starting a new relationship
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So I am slowly coming to terms with the fact I have herpes type one in my system. I was only told a week ago officially that I have it but the clinic said I probably have it about two weeks (ish) ago when I had a break out. My break out was only one tiny sore which lasted a week and a half, I didn't take any medication just cleared up on it's own (which made me think should I get re tested as this was confusing!) I think that I have a healthy life style eating and drinking the right stuff (minus the Christmas binge).
Anyway ... Being 25 and single I now have a worry of will I pass this on to a guy and will anyone ever be supportive and understand this. I was told by the clinic if I have no symptoms and sores I can have sex without a condom ... Yet I have been reading a lot online (which I know is not always good) which states herpes can shread even with out sores ..! How risky is it to have sex with out a condom if I am clear free of sores?
I have started dating a guy who I really like and we are getting to a stage where he's asking me to stay over, I'm scared and freaking out! I would be mortified if I give it to him but at the same time I haven't built up enough trust to have the balls to tell him I have this.
My mind is all over the place! Help!
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FelizCastus tara69187
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tara69187 FelizCastus
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jessb1738 tara69187
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If you feel like you can't trust him yet and you aren't ready to tell him, then don't. The way I brought it up was talking about Charlie sheen but obviously made sure he didn't think I had HIV ... Give it a while longer and build up the confidence and courage to talk to him about this. I personally feel there is no rush to tell someone just as long as you notify them before sex!
I'm now in a happy healthy relationship we have sex and use condoms and I'm on meds! ... There is good to come from this little friend lol,
Best of luck xxx
tara69187 jessb1738
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Sabrina55 tara69187
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While this is a game changer, to say the least, it is not a death sentence (nor a death knell for your love life). The asymptomatic shedding is frustrating, though, I understand your angst on that subject!
tara69187 Sabrina55
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You are so right I might be surprised to even meet someone who shares this!