Herpes Newbie
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Started a new relationship a few months ago. I don't sleep around and I try to be sensible and use protection but on this occasion in this new relationship he swore on his children's lives he hadn't had sex with anyone for four years. From that I assumed I was safe. We spent all weekend together and on the Monday I felt like what I had was bad thrush. Tuesday evening after treating the thrush I was still in agony inside. Wednesday afternoon I rushed up the doctors after finding three small blisters and being so sore inside. The doctor said she didn't think it was GH but I was certain after searching on the Internet and all the answers were GH. She prescribed anti-virals anyway just incase and took a swab from one blister for testing. The day after I broke out in a few more blisters and was able to look closer to find inside I was covered in ulcers too, I couldn't urinate without breathing like I was giving birth. In fact if rather give birth to ten more children than go through that again. The results were supposed to be back today but when i phoned the receptionist said phone back tomorrow. I know it's GH even though the GP didn't think it was but I'm still holding on to that tiny bit of hope it's something less life changing. In reality I know that's not what I'm going to hear over the phone tomorrow but I need that confirmation to be able to deal with this properly. Today it's hot me hard and I've been emotional because I think I'm angry that the results aren't back and I've worked myself up.
I have spoke the the other party in all this whom lve found out since breaking out in the symptoms that he has had a three month relationship just before me. He said he had t had sexual inter purse for four years yet had a relationship (hard to believe) but speaking to him all he could say was I have now gave him it and I've got a f'in cheek blaming him. The only thing I've ever caught in my life is a cold and now I'm lumbered with what I'm sure is GH and all I can think of is who will want me now? I'm not sure how I'm going to deal with the other party just yet but I'm sure he must of knew he had this. He never drank alcohol (maybe because it can trigger GH off?). He said he has not had sexual I twrvourse in four years yet has had a relationship and a few other lies I've found out he's told me but not connected to GH. Anyway moving on and although I've only had this for just over a week I would like to share what has helped me and still is as I still am suffering but it's getting better slowly:
Submerging in water I found made the sores moister and more painful. It is important to keep the area clean but a shower I find better. Pain killers are a must. I have an aloe Vera plant which I used the sap from the inner of the leaf to use as a natural paste and that helped at night. Urinating whilst holding a shower hose pointing on your bits help but try not to do it for long as it does the same as a bath and keeps it moist. I'm sure the quicker they dry the faster they heal but again keep the area clean!
Hopes this helps 😕
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feelbroken mjm1975
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U knkw that the thought process is to dry them out and treat them like a burn I jurty we sustained externally, but it doesn't really work that way, because this is taking place from the inside out. Sores take place when the virus enters the skin cell nuclei and for some people, it explodes the nucleus, which results in lesions. This is why even antiviral cream has proven ineffective and H is treated from the inside.
There are people who have the same sores for 3 months and won't go away and we all know, any inhurty sustained to the akin by external forces, so not take that long to clear up. The sores are present as long as the virus has not recedes back into latency. So the science behind how sores can be treated from H, actually doesn't even make sense to treat it like it was a physical burn blister we received, but I digress.
For others it's more painful, such as for me, to have them dried out, vs covering the ones that get friction from walking or are in the urine stream path, w a heavy coating of Vaseline, which has provided myself and many others w relief, especially when using the bathroom.
I always recommend that people try different remedies to see what helps them best. Drying the sores out won't make them go away, so long as the virus is present and has not run back up into the sacral ganglia in our tailbone.
In regards to your bf, sounds like there are red flags all over and I'm so sorry you've been lied to as much as you have. If I were in your position, I would end things, as this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, when a relationship is built off lies. .
It's not true that someone won't want you. I have disclosed and it not be a problem for that person.
I have 7 gfs w H, 5 are married w kids now and that was post H and 1 is married w no kids and one is her 9 yrs has never had a rejection.
It's normal to feel the way you do at the moment and it will pass, I promise. I recommend joining the H Opportunity forum, as it is like a social networking forum for support, w those w -. It has the latest and accurate information in there about H, success stories, disclosure stories, disclosure videoes and pamphlets. I think you will find great solace from that site. Hang in there, it gets better.
mjm1975 feelbroken
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I'm sure I will come to terms with it and I will for certain go on to the forum you have suggested. My concern now and for the future of I actually meet anyone who accepting of it is how easily is it actually passed on and what precautions can I take as well as condoms? I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy as over a week and I'm still in agony however it's slightly better than at first 😞
feelbroken mjm1975
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They say that to scare you, so you don't do anything. If you have not had a blood test, do so immediately, as it will show negative soon after exposure and that's how you price it was a new infection. Tell him he can shove it and you have proof it is a new infection and you welcome taking him to court for this. He'll back off and go silent on you. Mine did the same thing and told me to never contact him again. Don't fall for this scare tactic he is using.
I really recommend you sit in Epsom salt baths and see how you feel then. Other than that, there is not a lot you can do for your primary. Get some lidocain spray if you can. Are you in the UK or US? Will assume UK, as you keep using this term"cheeky " and we don't say that in the US.
The following transmission rates for female to male a year and sustaining during symptoms are as follows under the following caveats.
- condoms and meds: 1%
- condoms or meds: 2%
- no condoms or meds: 4%
That site has the disclosure pamphlets and PDF w all that stuff on there.
mjm1975 feelbroken
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He's calling me a liar saying that you can't get tested for two weeks but he clearly is referring to the blood test and not the swab. Yet he reckons he has had the blood test today. Yet it's not quite two weeks yet so there's a contradiction straight away! I'm not worried as I know I've never had the virus symptoms ever before.
Yes I'm form the UK lol
Thanks again your making me feel better already 😙
I will buy and try anything recommended to me. Think I need to try all and be ready for the next ob xx
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feelbroken mjm1975
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Ask him for proof of his results of his blood work.
Culture is different than blood. Blood looks for antibodies, which if present, shows an infection you've had for at least 3 months or more. A culture looks for viral DNA, which is obtained from the sore that has virions, so he is wrong. Of course he's calling you a liar, so did my guy, it's because they know what they did and can get in trouble, so he's trying to intimidate you.
Your next OB will not be painful like this one. None of mine have hurt me since my primary and I had a horrific primary. During your period or right before you may have symptoms and/or an OB due to hormones.
Yes, GPs are quote ignorant when it comes to Herpes and especially in the UK I noticed.
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Yeah I've got all my back up supplies of which I've got from forums of people saying what helps. If it weren't for people like you id have nothing at all.
I can deal with th GH it's the fear of telling potential partners and when is best to tell them and watching them run a mile 😞
😘 thanks for your reply xx
keisha82256 mjm1975
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I have however been told that men can often ignore/be reluctant to go to GP and therefore not know they have it as their symptoms are far milder than women's. I'm past the anger stage of catching it from him as this I am 110% sure of but I'd love to know if he has been diagnosed and yet still passing it on. That I guess I'll never know. I just have to learn to live with it now which is the hardest part of all of this 😟
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