Herpes outbreak at SAME time as boyfriend???

Hi i was diagnosed with herpes type 2 about 3 weeks ago been with tge same guy for nearly 5 years and i know he has been faithfull too since then iv done alot of research and also i have had blisters come up 3 times iv found they come up after sex. It is weird that you have both had an outbreak at the same time but theres a number of things that could cause it sex being one of them.

Theres no point getting angry about it as it doesnt change anything but to be honest its not all that bad lots of people have herpes without knowing and im glad i know as i can now tell when im about to have an outbreak so can get straight on my meds. Nobody will ever know who caught it first or when but its happened.

An outbreak at the same tine is rare so maybe its not herpes but something else wont know until results come back i was gutted when i found out but its one of them things that does happen and is very managable .

If you want to talk more feel free to message me x

Thank you! I just found it weird that we broke out at the SAME time, especially when we both claim to be faithful (I know I have been, a I can do is trust his word). The anger he's throwing at me is almost worse than the condition itself! I told him exactly what you said, anger won't help & we'll never know who had it first. Again, thank you.

No pribs hun its not nice having it but i always look at it that it could be worse and people to have worse at least this is very managable with meds and pain is managable with gels and creams x

I have the same problem. Valtrex really helps me.

The same thing happened to me and my boyfriend. The first outbreak in one can spread it to the other so you both have symptoms at the same time.

Have you tried printing off fact sheets and talking? A lot of anger comes from lack of understanding.

Me and my boyfriend agreed not to play the blame game. It's hard because I'd had bloods and tests done recently to rule out STIs as a cause for my recurrent UTIs and it'd come back clean. I have to watch myself because some of my words become aggressive without me realising.

Sadly it's the only advice I can give; talking, no finger pointing, and watching tone.

The exact same thing happened to me and my parnter this week! We have been together for over a year and just had a baby together 3 months ago, we tried anal together for the first time and then all of a sudden we both broke out at the same time with these really sore lumps that look like herpes.. we both think its herpes but dont understand how we got it, we havent slept with anyone else and how did we only just get an outbreak if it was..? We have both been to the doctor and get our results on tuesday but i cant wait untill then to find out what it is, its giving me such bad anxiety.. im just wondering if you could PLEASE tell me what you ended up getting diagnosed with? I want to know whats wrong with me, is it herpes or a rash?

Me and my girl just had sex for the first time on Sunday, than Tuesday at the same time we both noticed itching and burning. Then bumps and swelling and scary stuff. Hers was all way worse then mine and mines actually doing a lot better and it's now Thursday. She went to her GYN who stated they were 99% it was herpes and prescribed herpes Medication, while my physician thought that such a fast occurrence for the both of us at the same time, and an onset so quickly of sex was very strange and not typical of herpes. He stated that usually one person has it already and than the other finds out a week later. For us to both have it at the same time les then 2 days later was very strange. He said it may or may not be. Will keep posted

I'd be thinking that whoever had it first had pre outbreak prodrome and was shedding without realising it and passed it to the other, then their outbreak came at the same time as the person it was passed to. If you got bloods taken and looked at the values you may be able to tell who has had the virus longer as their index will be higher than someone who has recently been infected.