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bethan67449
bethan67449

Okay, so I have hsv1 genital herpes. I'm not going through an outbreak at the moment, and I've not told the guy I'm seeing that I have herpes yet.

Last night he fingered me. We didn't do anything else, no oral or penetrative sex.

Can I have passes herpes on this way?

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  • Koolredd
    Koolredd bethan67449

    Posted

    Uh no , lol it's not that ... You can't get it by fingering .,

    Unless you have an active outbreak or something (don't think you would put yourself in that position) and it can spread sometimes .. I've heard countless stories of that .

    Why haven't you told him yet I thought you wee planning on telling him ASAP. I was in this same position last month .. Took me about 2-3 weeks to actually tell him .. And I kept pushing off sex .

    • bethan67449
      bethan67449 Koolredd

      Posted

      Just haven't plucked up the courage to do it yet!

      So if I don't have open sores, the chances of passing it through fingering are slim? I'm so stressed out about this and I don't even know why.

    • lucylevi
      lucylevi Koolredd

      Posted

      Hi Koolredd

      How did it go when you told him? Im dreading that talk when the time comes but hope it went well for you!

    • Koolredd
      Koolredd bethan67449

      Posted

      Not to push this on your or anything and have you going around thinking stuff is safe .

      But

      On dec 2nd I had my first breakout I thought it was a chemical burn because I had Naired .. Turns out it was herpes

      Me and my boyfriend had sex when I had an ACTIVE outbreak . Got two tests done both have came back negative ... He plans on getting another test done towards the end of February to ensure it .

      I guess it just depends .

      I'm not on any suppressive medicine yet I wanna wait it out but then again I wanna be able to have sex unprotected and not have to worry about passing it on to him .

      The chances are slimer to none with hsv 1 ..

      I have type 2 and he hasn't managed to catch it from me (knock on wood) it's a risky thing I can tell you that

      I got DIAGNOSED with it on dec 15th & I finally told him think a week or two later . He actually questioned me about after he read some stuff..

      So I can't say come out and tell him because I didn't even do that .. It's hard to tell someone . That's why I say if this doesn't work out with me and him I don't see me dating in the future any .

      How did you get this ? It wasn't from him ? Have you hinted this type of subject to him or anything ?

  • lucylevi
    lucylevi bethan67449

    Posted

    Hi there Bethan

    I am no expert but I think if you have GHSV1 you are less likely to shed the virus asymptomatically which reduces risks even further. Also (someone correct me if I'm wrong) if the guy has HSV1 (it's common of the mouth) he'll have antibodies so even less of a risk. I have HSV1 and I'm hoping this is correct!

    Lots of luck!

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus lucylevi

      Posted

      That is correct! So the odds in her case are slim. Only way it could pass to his finger is if she is shedding and he has broken skin on his finger, like a torn hangnail, and never had cold sores.
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