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Hi all, thanks for your comments and experiences with ciprolax. I hope that you can help me with the dilemma that I’m facing. In March 06 I met and fell in love with a wonderful woman. For the first two months I felt as if I were in heaven. We were physical very close and I would often stay over at her request. Love makes you blind, and little did I note that she did not reciprocate emotionally, or at least I thought that it would take her some time. I assumed that because of her past experience with her ex-husband, she probably needed some time to trust me with her feelings. I learnt in the initial stages of our relationship that her ex-husband of five years abused her physically and emotionally during the marriage. It was ten months after her divorce that we met. Anyway in early May 06 she started behaving differently, absolutely unemotional than usual and distant. She did appear to be confident around people and with herself and career. She went for an interview mid May and was offered a job abroad. I was torn apart upon knowing that she was going to leave, especially since I thought of her as the one I would marry very soon, though she didn’t know of my plans and intentions. It was on rare occasions that she would open up to me and let me in on any feelings or desires or inner passions. She was simply cold! I do my utmost best to please her, I go out of my way in every way, just so that I may receive an ounce of emotional reassurance from her side, but all my efforts have been in vain.

She said to me casually in July that she was taking cipralex. At the time I did not think anything of it since I’d never taken any medication myself and did not think that her ‘different personality’ was attributable to the ‘crazy pills’, as she amusingly called it. She went abroad end July and I was and still am devastated. I saw her three weeks ago for a few days as she retuned on business. We ‘made love’ and I addressed her with the topic of marriage and commitment. She said that she was not ready for marriage and would not be the best in any relationship. It was a sad departure from the airport about 10 days ago and it broke my heart when she said to me that I should not wait for her. So here I am researching the effects of cipralex and in retrospect all is starting to make sense, her behaviour, throwing up, forgetfulness, headaches, weight gain, sleepiness, not wanting to be around lots of people and absolute lack of emotion. Many times I would say to her that I loved her but she would just look back and say something lighthearted. I am lost and don’t know what to do. Its reached the point where I need to see a therapist to help me cos I feel like im on an emotional rollercoaster. There is a part of me that blames cipralex for what it has done to my relationship with her. I still miss so very much, but the sad reality is that I don’t know if I will ever get to know the ‘real her’. I have not heard from her the past week, and don’t know if I should contact her or just be friend to her, which is very difficult cos I love her so very much and it hurts that she seems incapable of loving me, or anyone else. Please help with your advice….

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    Are you sure this is about your partner or about you. Cipralex is a mediation for Depression and other mental ailments. Perhaps you should try it?

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    I discussed the issue with my pshychologist yesterday. He is of the opinion that cyprolax did play a role in her behaviour, coupled of course with the emotional and physical abuse of her ex-husband. I've decided that I will be there for her as a friend. I think that she probably has fears of commitment and marriage. I have fears that she may become dependent on the cyprolax. I do wonder if she will eventually stop the medication. I am prepared to do my utmost best to see help her and prevent any relapse from occurring should she decide to stop. I too once experimented with pills, especially of the illegal sort (ecstacy). 'E' has the effect of ciprolax but probably ten times more, 'E' releases huge amounts of seretonin, but the 'come down' is awfull and there are long-term effects in some cases. I did consider taking cipralex for the sake of the experience of what she was going through.. Truth is I did my best in the relationship. I wont take cipralex since I don't feel depressed, just sad. But my education of the drug and the experiences that people write about leads me to conclude that if our relationship were to be one without cipralex, then she would definitely show emotion, I have only seen her cry twice prior to taking cipralex. Had I known at the time that she suffered from depression I would've taken the steps to help her without the use of anti-depressants. I apologise for sounding 'anti-cipralex', I do believe that before the introduction of anti-depressants, people must have found a natural way to deal with their problems, without the chemical dependancy:roll:

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    Your taking of illegal drugs simply negates all your comments on Cipralex and what you perceive it's effects to be on your partner. You won't take a prescribed drug but you take E - why do you need to take E? Have you asked your psychologist that question?

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    I took E once in a while for the sole purpose of being naughty and having fun, that's all.

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  • Guest
    Guest

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    Sad.

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  • Guest
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    Posted

    heres some medicine for you....not an E tho...just a dose of meditruth

    SHE DIDNT LOVE YOU! end of! nice trip tho the next time brad pitt refuses to marry me im gonna blame medication for his lack of response.... :lol:

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