Hi, i'm having a very hard time with rehearsing conversations (not wanting to rehearse just my brain

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Hi, i'm having a very hard time with rehearsing conversations (not wanting to rehearse just my brain going on and on), over thinking/chatter just not being able to switch off. i'm on 20mg of citalopram which has helped a little. Do any of the SSRI's beat this?

Has anyone ever beaten the Chatter? any tip on stopping the rehearsing? i know everyone says just let it happen and it will fade, does it ever fade and ****off?

Thanks for any help

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    apologies can't edit. the title was "Rehearsing Conversations/OverThinking/Chatter has anyone ever beat it?"

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    Hi . It's maddening, had it for years , I call it washing machine head as my mind goes round and round mostly general rubbish or something I'm worrying about, lots of people also go over and over songs. I also go over conversations I've had , did I sound stupid? Could I have came over better etc. Years ago thought I was mad until i learned others suffer from this and it's a very common symptom with anxiety sufferers. Do you also get racing heart and anxiety symptoms or is it just the racing thoughts , ruminating.? Sometimes I just worry in general other times head won't stop, I've been like this for years, I put up with it now as I know it won't harm me, it's just frustrating and annoying, does get me down . Medication may help, lots of tips here on how to relax , breathing techniques , and how to tackle these unwanted thoughts. Try posting again ' any tips on getting rid of unwanted racing thoughts( rumination) or something along those lines, hope this helps😊??

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      Hiya Edwina hope you feeling okay x how are stopping your racing unwanted thoughts ? I cant feel fully happy , cause they are always in my head and when I think about them I get extremly anxious and it puts me down. From yesterday im trying to simply not to think about them and everytime they come , I try to think about something else... it works a little bit but im always scared that I wont be able to stop them and I will stop thinking racionally and they overtake my life.😯 whats your secret and tips ? Hugs xx

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      HI Aga, racing thoughts still bother me, something I think will always be there but I can go from constant' washing machine head' to not noticing as much if I keep myself busy, I often have conversations and worries going round and round but I tell myself it's normal with anxiety just so fraustrating, I sometimes find it keeping in and try to relax or ring someone etc to concentrate on something else. There is a lady here who posts and has great tips on rumination, mind racing with negative thoughts and seared by something called ' mindfulness' . Try and google ' how to get rid of negative unwanted thoughts, rumination, hope this helps , it's so frustrating can really get you down, it's always such negative thoughts or worrying what if. Wish it was stuff like what I'll spend my money on when I win lottery.😊??

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      Forgot to say cbt or hypnotherapy can help. I paid for few hypnotherapy sessions , can work, but I found thoughts keep the back after a while , but many people find it helpful?❤️
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      Thank you 😘my therapist told me about mindfulness and they doing free courses for nhs , but when I messaged them to ask if they doing any in my area they never replied 😐I really wanted to do it , I see it as the only way of helping me to ease everything . I have a meeting with my therapist tomorrow and I will ask her if she can make a phone call for me and see what she finds out 😍how are you feeling today anyway ? Xxx

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      Great today thanks, had good sleep , I tend to stay up late. Had funeral last week and my anxiety was super bad,but understandable, leading up to it was theworst, head going, worrying about who would be there, if they would notice me shaking. I had to tell myself everyone's upset, focusing on the family, crack on , its couple of hours to get through. Have made so many excuses over years and missed out on things, feel sorry for hubby. Usually manage to bluff my way through things and always have an excuse ready if super anxious. Usually it's the thought of it is worse than doing it. Anyway keep up the good work. Definitely push to get as much help as you can. Try everything available, you sound more positive today, great👍🏻??

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      Im glad you feeling good😊 I tend to avoid places that can make my anxiety worse but my therapist said its the worst thing to do to avoid , I put sick note for week at work cause Im scared Im going to feel anxious over there cause once I had massive panic attack at work and they had to ring ambulance as I was going on and on and on . But cant avoid work forever can i grrrrrr I try to stay positive even when feeling bad , but we all get fed up. Im just trying to find a way to live with this 😘

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      the big problem at the moment isn't not being able to swicth off and enjoy stuff particularly Films and tv. my head just keeps checking to see if i'm "into it" "am i relaxing" etc

      Driving me crazy sad

      I've been trying meditation for 6 weeks are so doing a "Body Scan" it helps but again i'm not fully switching off and "being in the moment"

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      Yeah. Sounds like anxiety related, heard people describe this before, very similar, like your minds preoccupied and can't concentrate on what's going on, should discuss this with doctor, may help or sujjest therapy. Therapy probably similar to the ( negative thinking ) stuff. Did you look for tips about rumination and a thing called 'mindfulness '. People here find it helpful with negative racing thoughts,may help, ??

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    Go  to YouTube and search for Guided Meditations for anxiety and negative thinking. They teach you how do you separate the negative thoughts from yourself and the constant chatter. The constant chatter is called rumination and it's very common with anxiety.  I have had that for many years until I discovered these meditations and a book called Mindfulness.  

    The audio meditations completely calm my mind and body down and that is what is needed to reduce the  rumination. All anxiety starts in the brain so the key is to calm down the brain.

    Search YouTube for "detachment  from overthinking". Or "Clearing subconscious negativity"

    You may see a list of others that are similar so just pick the ones you like. There's also meditations for depression and sleeping well etc. I think they could really help you. I do them a couple times a day as well as read the book .

     reason people tell you to just let the thoughts go away is because when you try to fight them off everything gets worse. When you become anxious the brain sends out adrenaline which gets the anxiety pumped up again as well as the negative thinking. All of this is explained in that book. 

    Don't be too hard on yourself because none of this is your fault. Treat yourself well.

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