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HIV health anxiety, please help!!!

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mel49488
mel49488

I'm an 18 year old female that's made a mistake!! Basically from the beginning... I was diagnosed with severe health anxiety about 5 months ago and I still very much struggle with it, physically and mentally. Moving on to the HIV part, I recently had sex with a guy that I barely knew and know nothing about his sexual history. The day after I asked him if he had any sti's just to make sure (I know I should have asked him before but it didn't cross my mind). After I asked he replied 'I've got HIV' and my stomach dropped, I was begging him to tell me he's joking but he spent the next 20 minutes convincing me he had it and it wasn't until I started crying he told me he was only joking but by then the idea was already far implanted in head and since he told me I've felt like I've had a fever, sore throat, ear ache and migraine and I'm 100% convinced I have HIV because we didn't use a condom and he ejaculated inside me. the day after I went to get PEP and I'm currently taking it just to be safe but I think it's really having an affect on my anxiety and making it worse and I just keep googling symptoms of HIV and everytime I read a new symptom I start to feel it but I don't know if the symptoms are just side effects of the PEP or even symptoms of anxiety. On top of that now I'm starting to question if I've got HIV from previous sexual partners as I never used a condom because I trusted all of them and knew exactly who they'd had sex with. I get the results back from my first HIV test in 3 days but that won't cover all my sexual partners as I was told the results may not be accurate before 3 months but I don't want to be this worried for another 3 months I feel like I'm going insane! Could anyone offer some reassurance please?sad

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  • Misssy2
    Misssy2 mel49488

    Posted

    I hope this helps....I was told a long time ago....that if you have NOT had anal sex...there is a very slim chance for HIV to transfer.

    I was raped by a stranger...and I was concerned and asked my therapist....and that is what she told me...it reassured me...

    It makes sense..because skin is more likely to tear....in the anus...I do not believe it is transmitted by semen...but by blood to blood.

    • mel49488
      mel49488 Misssy2

      Posted

      Sorry to hear thatsad there was no anal involved but yeah I've been told there's a higher risk if there is!

  • richard89308
    richard89308 mel49488

    Posted

    In my opinion he was acting like a jerk so I hope that you are OK.
    • LFCste
      LFCste richard89308

      Posted

      well for me I was thinking if she was my daughter at that age 

      lets get this right now people from my point of view its so wrong for a girl of this age to have to get a HIV test she is so young 

    • richard89308
      richard89308 LFCste

      Posted

      These days it is a necesity in case you have HIV as a result so that you know not to infect other people. It is not a case of taking the moral high ground. you need to be practical after unsafe sex for everyone's sake even though the partner was acting like a fool in winding her up.

    • mel49488
      mel49488 LFCste

      Posted

      Well sadly I'm not the first and I won't be last person this happens to, I hope for your daughters sake she is never in this situation so she doesn't have to explain it to her narrow minded father, your opinion is boring now and I don't care what you have to say. try living in this century, goodbye ste

  • laura51360
    laura51360 mel49488

    Posted

    you're only 18 yrs old and you're not using a condom? if it was someone you had no idea about make sure you always use a condom. Condoms are the only real protection from STI's even if you know the person. I hope your test results come back that you don't have HIV. But seriously you need to be a little bit more causious especially when it comes to this. I'm not lecturing I'm just being realistic. Always ALWAYS use a condom even if you're on birth control. 

    • mel49488
      mel49488 laura51360

      Posted

      I know, I'm learning from my mistakes I'll be more careful

  • Healthanxiety1
    Healthanxiety1 mel49488

    Posted

    First of all what a w***** the guy is for telling u that if he was joking and if he wasn't he should of told u b4 hand if he had anything. You can get a hiv test 4 weeks after intercourse at a gum clinic because I had to have 1 done. The chances of catching hiv from 1 single exposure is 1 / 1000 and that's if the guy is hiv positive. Hiv is not an easy virus to catch in fact the nurse told me you need to have sex severel times to increase your risk with some 1 who is hiv positive. I suffer with health anxiety and I convinced my self I had it as well. Try not to worry until u have your test and God forbid it was positive you can lead a very normal life on medication. Hiv is not a death sentence. I'm sure you will be fine

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