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HIV Scare? Please help me

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alfred42946
alfred42946

I am worried of my health recently. I am a 24 year old male. 2 month ago in September i had unprotected sex with one of my female friend. I am not sure about her sex health history but she told me she is healthy and also has previously encountered with unprotected sex with other male in the past. After that encounter, my penis head is swollen and once i pull my foreskin there is a lot of this white stuff. Sometimes it does cover the head of the penis as well. It itches but there is no yellow discharge coming from the penis and i don't feel any pain when urinating. Also after the encounter, it was hard to wear my underwear because the penis was swollen and sometimes it does stick to the underwear. When I separate the penis from the underwear, the pain will be terrible and sometimes blood stain will be sticking to it. This can be explained that before we had sex, I was pumping hard on her with my shorts and she was wearing jeans.When the sex happens, it only lasted less than 7 minutes and I ejaculated outside of her. I am also uncircumcised.Is this a type of std? After that I did have a sore throat too where it was hard for me to swallow food but that went away. I also had constant headache. Or do i have to be scared of HIV infection? Two years ago i had unprotected sex as well.One month after the the recent encounter that is in October, I did a full blood test and the results for hiv was negative but the doctor told me my pressure is high a bit and that is the reason for the headache. This is true because I do have a lack of sleep. But im still worried if it could be HIV. Last week I started using Canesten Cream Clotrimazole 1% to get rid of the white stuff from my penis as I was believe it was Balanitis. I only used it for 5 days before I stop as I notice the white stuff started going away. But after I stop it, I started having fever, flu, mild cough, headache and abdominal pain since yesterday. The fever is reducing as I took a fever tablet yesterday. Is this HIV because Im having this flu like symptoms just 6-7 weeks after the encounter. I am very scared it might be HIV.What am i to do. Please help me.

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  • matt82320
    matt82320 alfred42946

    Posted

    Hi Alfred, Many of us know the extreme fear you are experiencing, because we have been in the same situation. However, keep in mind before you convince yourself you have HIV. Your sympoms could Also be anything including a simple bug to, an easily curible std - Also, Many times HIV shows no early noticible symptoms at all.

    1. You do not get HIV by default. Your partner must have it for you to be at risk.

    We don't know another persons history 100%, that's why testing is a good idea for anyone having unprotected sex.

    2. It is impossible to diagnose yourself without knowledgeable, professional testing.

    3. Do Not try to diagnose your symptoms via the internet. It will needlesly scare the crap out of you. For instance. You could type in the same symptoms with the word Ebola  and you could be experiencing that as well (according to the net).

    Point is. Make an appointment with your GP, or a clinic that has std testing (many offer free and annonmous testing). AND don't feel embarrassed - there is practically nothing they haven't seen before and it is why the are in business - it's how they pay the bills lol.. So get it checked out and always play safe. Good luck ..

     

    • alfred42946
      alfred42946 matt82320

      Posted

      Thank you so much for the reply. I did a full blood test 1 month after the encounter and the hiv cames out negative. I'm planning to do another one in January. But till then I am so afraid of all the symptoms I'm having. 
    • matt82320
      matt82320 alfred42946

      Posted

      That is Good news -  hang in there and try not to worry - simply rely on the facts.  Follow up testing is important. It may be a good idea to also test for other stds related to the swelling and white discharge. As for HIV. A test at 90 days after contact, seems to be widely accepted as confirmation of your results. In RARE cases it has up shown in the 6 month to 1 year range, but again it is RARE.. Ask your GP their opinion on how long after contact to confirm and stay in touch. Good Luck..

       

  • simonthethird
    simonthethird alfred42946

    Posted

    Hi Alfred

    While you may have an STI as the other poster says try not to worry; get a test if you need to.   One thing is that you are highly unlikely to have HIV.  Despite all the hysteria in UK at least it is rare.  The Guardian recently wrote that there are about 90000 cases in the UK. Of those about half are within the community of "men who have sex with men".  Of the rest some 30000 are from sub-saharan africa.  The other risk groups are injecting drug users [who may acquire from sharing needles and sex with others infected] and haemophiliacs.  The risk from sex with a person outside these groups is low.

     

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