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carol75411
carol75411

talking to lintz the SUBECT of home life came up. Ans sorry to all the  gentlemen out there, husbands, and by the sounds of you children. I feel lucky that I am retired and living in a bungalow with just my husband. I have a 92 yr old mum who generally looks after herself but I always

cook her Sunday dinner. She was so surprised that I had managed to do it tonight. I even managed a Yorkshire pudding! 

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  • renee01952
    renee01952 carol75411

    Posted

    Good morning carol .... definitely a Mars vs Venus issue ... they just don't understand, bless their hearts ... and they feel the same way about us, don't they ... and honestly, it is really hard  to let go of control - 

    we want things to be done our way and see all kind of things that need to be done - they don't - 

    now, my sister has a (new) boyfriend who does everything for her, anticipate things that he thinks she needs to have done - so much so that now she is upset and feels like a bad hausfrau .... agh ... 

    enjoy Wimbledon !!!! will be exciting again .....

    big hug 

    • Guest
      Guest renee01952

      Posted

      We do, we just act differently on what we see.

      we don't always see a need to do things immediately, which then leads to the thinking we just don't see it.. 

      As for your sister's new boyfriend, tell him to be careful. That sort of behaviour might backfire as well (speaking from experience). 

      Anticipate often enough, and you will get the stick if you slack for whatever reason once... Long story that one, suffice to say that it was the relation with my son's mother. And it ended ~13 years ago. 

      Now, I'm married to the loveliest lady who actually loves it whenever I do anticipate and understands when I don't. She calls me her half-woman sometimes. Not sure if that's a compliment though 😝

  • jane30862
    jane30862 carol75411

    Posted

    You all sound lucky to me I live with the carer from hell !! My 18 year  grandson  He knows what I should eat, when I should eat it. When I should move and for how long What I should watch on television  or read I know he is worried and only wants me well but I think he should be considering a future in cell block H Those women would never go to prison twice!!
  • shirley20506
    shirley20506 carol75411

    Posted

    Have to say I've been spoilt where being looked after is concerned. Hubby took over all the household cooking, cleaning etc 4 years ago when he stopped working (I work full time). Was a steep learning curve for him as I have always done it all - but boy was I glad he had got it all mastered before I had this op (and for the next one!). Did get a bit frustrated at first though as he was actually over protective - was worried I was going to fall and followed me everytime I moved for the first couple of days - lol. Did mean all I had to do was concentrate my recovery - made a big difference. 
    • Guest
      Guest shirley20506

      Posted

      Being looked after was fairly short-lived here haha. Mostly because of my stubbornness I must admit. There were the questions whether I was sure I was going to walk the dog, walk to the shops and such, but around the house, it was clear very soon that I managed, so they just let that go 😊

      outside, to this day as well, there are the regular 'you okay still' questions though, which is nice if I'm honest. From my wife though, my daughter appears to think that when stiches/staples/dressings are gone, all is well again. The innocence of children...

  • Guest
    Guest carol75411

    Posted

    I was being looked after splendidly when I first had my op, but when he becme ill I had to jump  to it retty quick. Now we are both recovering togeher. We each choose which 1 jobwe are going to do that day and do it, we also fit in walks shopping etc, the house is tidy, not spotless,but we both rest in the afternoon. If anyone visits and they don't likeit theyare quite welcome to do the necessary work for us. We will get through thistogether hopefully both regaining strength each day. xx
    • renee01952
      renee01952 Guest

      Posted

      awww - that is so great gillcat -- how is alan doing, by the way ?  there is so much love between the two of you ...

      warm embrace

      renee

    • Guest
      Guest renee01952

      Posted

      Alan is doing pretty well at the moment he's had to go for more blood tests today and we'll get the results on Friday morning so finges crossed they are ok. I will let you know. Yes we are soulmates definitely not other word for it.smilesmilesmile How are you getting on with your house hunting? have you found anywhere yet? Love as always ((((((hugs))))) xxxx 
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