Honesty I am not as dumb as you think !!!!!

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Okay there are a good six or seven of us on this forum that ask/answer questions. What I have noticed is that we all have anxiety/depression.

Now here is my question that I have always wanted to ask another sufferer do people, friends and even relatives talk to you like you are stupid, you know explain things to you even though you understand.

I often get this where because I'm anxious it is assumed I don't understand like everyone else and the opposite happens with some doctors they tell you nothing and I always end up having to phone and ask them they also assume we can't take in information so they don't tell us.

Well I understand everything and as you've probably guessed it frightens the s**t out of me cause that's the problem not that I'm stupid........Drop Mic.....

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  • Posted

    My ex husband says to me a while back..."Now..don't get mad...but so you think maybe this is all in your head? He never asked that again...

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      A good hard kick in the nuts and then say .... No... but do you feel it's in my head now !!!!

      My husband is always saying if I could help you I would....... listen in the first place and it wouldn't get as bad.

      Thanks for replying ....Heather x

    • Posted

      😂😂😂😂 I'll bet he didn't! Millions of forum. It's not all in our head!

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    I share your sentiments about dealing with family.

    I have literally severed ties with them - again and for the last time. I am tired of being spoken to in condescending ways, ignored, only spoken to when it benefits them in any way, or used.

    Self preservation is not always a bad thing. Sometimes you have to walk away because being disrespected is not okay regardless of who it is from. Good luck

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    I don't have a problem with friends or family, the problem is with the doctors. I try to be honest and say that dealing with all of this has given me anxiety. That immediately turns into, all my problems are anxiety related. Umm, no. I was a normal working woman 6 months ago. Then, I had my first migraine with aura while at work which terrified me (I didn't know they existed). Since then, I have had a barrage of strange and scary visual disturbances. That is why I have anxiety. My advice to women, unless you are specifically looking for treatment for anxiety (i.e. antidepressants), don't mention to any doctor that you have anxiety. You will be treated differently from that moment on.

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    this is the story of my Life everything is blamed on anxiety when i know for a fact it isnt, my husband always says there is nothing wrong with you Pamela you have been to the dr over and over. it got to where im tired of not being taken seriously i stopped complaining and suffer in silence. i pray all day everyday cause only god knows my suffering along with you ladies. nobody gets it and thinks its in my head it has made me resent many around me. and if someone complains to me about a issues that hasn't taken me seriously ill say go to dr or walk it off. so i know how you feel your not alone

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      Hi Pamela

      This is all i ever get from husband kids and family

      There is nothing wring with you

      You have been doctors and had numerous tests

      12 years if this crap!!!!!

      Yes i do now have full blown anxiety with all these symptoms x

    • Posted

      same here, I've lived a lifetime of it and it continues to this day where i have once again stopped going to the drs and dont speak to anyone about whats really going on, except for here which has been great knowing im not alone in this and heartbreaking that so many of us are going through this at all and treated so disrespectfuly. there are so many of us that you'd think someone as in dr or specialist would have caught on by now.... shows who really are the smart ones in all this. oh and if one more person says msybe its all in your head.... i swear I'm going to headbutt them and say no.... its all in yours........

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      What about the doctors who mix up hypochondria with anxiety, for example I once went to the doctors with a pain in my chest and without sounding my chest and without me being either breathless or coughing said pluerisy. I said I've not come here for pills or to play pick an illness just check me and my oh my pulled muscle no pluerisy in site.

      I don't sit at home and say what illness will I have today , anxiety over powers your body as well as your brain.

      Hope you all have a panic free Sunday.......xx

  • Posted

    I did actually run into one doctor (a Neurotologist that checks for BPPV and other inner ear problems)... that said to me "Oh yeah..those hormones can really wreak havoc on you"... a man no less.. he isn't a doctor that can do anything about it, but it was just so refreshing and uplifting to hear a doctor say that.. and not even an OBGYN or woman....

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      My GP told me that aniexty and 'aches-pains' are very real at this time. And that many woman carry Zanax in their purse just in case they need something.

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    ladies we will come out stronger i believe that with all my heart, id like to headbutt a few too lol this hormonal crap def isnt for the weak its broke us down but its not gonna keep us down. hold our heads up high and screw everyone who dont believe us. one day at a time we will conquer all this.

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    Loved your post Heather

    I don't find anyone speaks to me like I'm a dingbat (think they'd know better too) but people acknowledge 'oh you're anxious '..... Like it's nothing! Anxiety for me is the absolute worst part of the journey, I just cannot get non anxious people to understand how physically and emotionally hard it is. Everyone is supportive but I wish sometimes they could feel it for a day, and then carry on with driving, work, housework, meetings, shopping, kids etc and just see how much it impacts everything. If I had 1 wish I'd rid us of anxiety xx

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