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This Christmas I decided to throw myself down a Real challenge. I invited a couple of lonely pensioners to join my family and me for Christmas dinner.

I  felt the anxiety and panic start as soon as the offers were accepted. 

The Dreaded words "what if"  and "suppose" flooded my head.

I had a full on panic attack Christmas eve questioning my sanity for inviting strangers into my home and puting stress on myself after coming out the otherside of a period of depression recently.

The big day came and I was all over the place worrying myself silly over every little thing. My grown up kids all came into thier own helping me in the kitchen.

The old people arrived and my kids thrust me iinto the lounge to welcome my guests. My mind racing thinking "what do I say" painfully aware I was out my comfort zone.

The ladies were lovely and so greatful to be invited out.I began to relax. After several cups of tea and several sherries for the ladies we all started to relax.

The ladies offered to help in the kitchen and I accepted. I cant believe it. I am usually too proud to accept help or ask for it

The meal with the ladies and my family was a great success.

I cant believe I had whipped myself into a mental frenzy for nothing.

I  have had a wonderful Christmas and all down to taking a disk and facing my fears

Jo

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    Wel done jo! What a lovely gesture im sure you made their Christmas how kind! Im doing dinner today for family and getting myself in rhe same frenzy. I know deep down it will all be lovely so am i am trying to ignorey anxiety and get peeling! :-)

    All the very best to you and your family

    Vix

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    Oh that's brilliant and well done for inviting them.  You have shown the true meaning of this festive period and I think you are great!   x
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    Hi Krollette

    What an awesome story. Well done you. What an inspiration you are to us. You felt the fear and did it anyway. Huge accomplishment and a family affair too. Thanks it is a great boost to me and others. What a wonderfvul Xmas it turned out to be.

    Cheers and love

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    That is such a lovely Christmas tale....Well done you,real nourishment for the soul!Fantastic!...I know that sometimes facing one's fears can be really positive,for me I find that the fear/terror I feel in my head far outweighs the reality of a given situation.x x
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      Hi Sally

      You just have to take care of yourself first and when you feel more up to challenging the fears, then give it a try. Krollette had support and that helps too. Dont be too demanding of. yourself. You will be able to do it when its the right time. We are our own worst critics! Accept if you dont feel ready but trust that you will be soon.

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      Hi Abella...I did mean that when I've confronted my fears,they don't live up to what I had imagined in my head!I've done this many times:confronted the fear and been very pleased that I did!
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    Well done, massive challenge successfully accomplished. Next time you set a challenge just remember focus on how much those ladies and yourself enjoyed the day and DO NOT focus on the feelings you had before hand. You achieved the true meaning of Christmas. Pat yourself on the back.
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      Thanks to everyone for your replies to my post.

      I  really did put myself through the ringer mentally and physically Christmas eve. .

      All for nothing.

      They didnt mind my house not being a show home or the fact my sherry was the budget and not Premium.

      The only expectations were the ones I placed on myself

      I am an anxious person and I get stressy but I need to start accepting that and stop comparing myself to other people .

      Today is a onesy day and instead of doing what I should do . I am allowing myself to do what I want to do...GUILT  FREE !

      I suggest if posible you all do the same. 

       

      Thank-you for your kind posts you really are a great Group of people

      Jo x

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