Hopeless Future
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I don’t know what had happened to me, I don’t even recognise myself anymore. I used to be such a carefree person – never really sad – always on a level of happiness and interest. But in the last few years I often find myself in such a spiral of anxiety that I start to feel like I am going crazy.
I think it started out with a simple and mild case of social-anxiety. I would go red a lot and that spiralled into a dread/fear of certain social situations. It was getting worse anyway, but then I began to take a contraceptive pill called Marvelon and it had a terrible effect of me. I became seriously depressed and was crying all the time for no reason – I really began to dread things which I had never given much thought before, e.g. growing up, moving out, my parents death, my death (basically change). Eventually I realised that the pill was causing my sudden personality change and I stopped taking it, but the effects and memories of that time are still with me and I fear have changed me for good.
This last year I have found a real struggle. I get along from day to day fine, but barely any time passes in which I do not have a bout of anxiety over something. The simplest thing can trigger it and I am suddenly unable to stop negative thoughts from entering my head, furthering my feelings of dread. The ‘episodes’ always pass and I feel better, but it’s just difficult to live like this!
Right now my situation is especially difficult, as I have just finished University and have returned home to take some time out (I am planning to work and volunteer, learn some new skills and hobbies, etc), but I have some free time before I start work and so I have free days with nothing to do but get myself into a state. I know that there is nothing wrong with taking some time out to figure things out but I can’t help feeling I am a failure, will be a failure and am going nowhere. My degree has gotten me nowhere – it’s a bit worthless to be honest, and I don’t know if I should pursue my dream job (requiring further study) or get a job with a decent wage. These types of thoughts are swirling around in my head with others like – I will never be in love, I will never get married.
I know it sounds ridiculous – I know I have a warm house, food, family and friends and so I am luckier than many people in the world. But sometimes I become so anxious that everything seems very distant and life becomes completely strange to me. Everything is hard to understand and feels strange. I hope it is just generalised anxiety, because although I find it hard to deal with, I think I can persevere in life. What other choice is there?
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I will never take pills, just because I know they can become addictive and I don't really want to be dependent on any medication. I realise some people really need them though and they genuinely help so maybe would help you?
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So sorry to hear your story,I know what you mean and yes we should be thankful for a roof over our heads and food on the table but when you are low these things are just material things and I have often in the past said I would rather live in a tent and not be like that,we don't appreciate things when like that.There are always somebody else worse off we know, it is all about living in the moment not the past or the future just take each day as it cones.You will get there,keep coming on here it does help.
Good Luck.
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Those dark tunnels that you can be in and you want to give up, there will be a time that comes when you realise what youve been through and how stronger person you are now.
You are not a failure, you have to create a future, volunteer, go out and find something you love.
Dont let your anxiety and depression overtake you, your are stronger than it.
There has been so many times in my life that i wanted it to end because i was so scared of the numbness and failure, but just realise it for what it is- and become stronger.