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hye_ri10249
hye_ri10249

My brother is 28 yrs old and a new surgeon ... He doesnt socialize .. Doesnt visit his relatives unless we argue him to .. He would lock himself in his room ... Curse and talk in a snake voice ... He is smoker .. And also a drug addict ... He would spend all the day over the roof or in his room ... Sometimes he would suspect my mother for being the reason that girls regect him ... While mom do all she could to help him .. My father doesnt involve himself with my brother .. If i tell my brother he could work abroad .. He would get very excited ... And he would tell us that every country would wish for him ... He believes that he is very successful and everyone would wish to be with him ... While the others not see him like that .. If he argued with us .. We would win and he starts making nonsense excuses that we feel that there is something wrong with him .. He would suspent our parents of taking his money ... While that money is theirs ... I think it all started in high school ...when he found out that his friends got the same score as him without studying as much as him ... My mom would tell me that when he was young .. He would brag about his score in front of his friends ... He always thinks that the people around him are wrong and the he is always correct and that they dont understand him ... I dont know what to do with him .. I really wanna help him .. He talks to himself in a wierd voice and that sometimes scares me .. If he did it in the evening and my room is next to him ... I would with him about him bringing ghosts in his room but he doesnt reply .. He isnt interested in foing to vacations or any family outing at all .. If we went anywhere ... He would wait for us in the car

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  • respecthealth
    respecthealth hye_ri10249

    Posted

    Congratulations to your brother for becoming a surgeon! Where would the rest of us be if no one became a surgeon? I've been in and out of hospital for many years because of relatives'/friends' illnesses and am in absolute awe of such people. The effort and hours they put in is unbelievable. It must have taken a lot from him, so maybe just wants some quiet time to himself or maybe it's just his nature. Sometimes people need to get 'stuff out of their system' in their own time before they can move more forward in life, so they can say in the future: "Been there, done that, didn't like it and never ever returning for more". We cannot change anyone, except just being there for them and loving them through no matter what. This includes living the best example of life that you can (in  thoughts, words and deeds) for him - this plants that quality seed in his mind - and that one day will attract him to wanting more and more of the type of life you have. You just need to be determined to be patient with the whole process.
  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 hye_ri10249

    Posted

    I also applaud and respect your brother for his acheivements in becoming a surgeon.  However i feel it maybe him taking drugs that can be why he is the way he is. I don't know his personality so maybe he is an unsociable person. Drugs can have dractic effects on people. If it's possible talk to him about why he feels he needs drugs, don't berate or critize him and if he doesn't talk don't push him. Is he possibly depressed. 
  • hye_ri10249
    hye_ri10249

    Posted

    Then should i wait for him .. Or try to persuade him get medical help
    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 hye_ri10249

      Posted

      Talk with him first, if he wants help he will ask you to help him get this. You cannot force him to get help. 
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