How can we make them listen about contraception

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I have been noticing a trend with most of these threads, that if there is a problem with our contraception we are told to either take another form of contraception to help the current one "settle down" or we are asked to come back in X amount of months after you've given it a chance to settle down.

I don't think this is good enough. Doctors don't understand how these side effects actually affect us, I don't mean physically (heavy bleeding, pain etc) I mean mentally and emotionally. I have either gained weight or bled heavily with almost all contraceptives. This resulted in me having no confidence and feeling paranoid about myself.

In this day and age I don't think this is good enough at all.

How can we make them listen?

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    It may not be a  question of doctors listening or not. For some women hormonal contraception is simply not an option. If you require long-term protection against pregnancy you may need to consider a non-hormal IUCD.
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      My contraception is sorted and I'm finally happy with it. Non hormonal uids are terrible and I'd never consider having another.

      My point isn't about the contraception side it's more about the fight women have to go through to change or stop the use of their contraception (iuds, implants, injections etc)

      When alot of us experience a problem with one of these we are told to just wait and see, or are prescribed other medication to cope with them while we go through all sorts of side effects.

      Why don't the Dr's just accept that what's happening to you isn't right and understand that it is your body and choice and you'd like it removed? Instead of having to go through 6 months of hell

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    Hi there,

    I think doctors are too busy everything is being pushed to the limits. I found the family planning service have More time for you and say it how it is. With my issues' of being scared about coil fitting I had to go to my gp surgery.

    Sometimes you may find a doctor or nurse practitioner who you click with and its easier to get your point across.

    I have to say I have never had a problem with contraception till I was 40 and had my 1st child. Then from having loads of options there id this coil wich 1 specialist advised its not a good idea, for my partner to have the snip.

    I do sympathise I had all the pills I ether bled all the time, mood swings. Breast pain. I don't know what the answer is.

    Each pill change weight went on, I have had the coil 2 months a good 3 weeks I could not control my hunger so mote weight on.if this side affect is mentioned never heard that before. Sick to death of it. If you find the answer for you that's great and I hope you do. Good luck.

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    I entirely agree, i am 45 and cannot believe the amount of problems encountered taking supposedly tried and tested contraceptives ! We know that the doses of hormones required to do the job are reduced compared to the 60 s ! But i am wondering if they have gone too low as the side effects are prolongued/and or heavy bleeding for months on end in alot of cases and as you say, how the hell long do we wait for it to settle down ? Until our boyfriend has left us because we can't be together a year ? 2 ?

    ​I like you feel vastly disappointed with what is on offer and my low confidence in all things sexual ( as I have been on my own so long) meet someone lovely at last and have to say sorry I am bleeding continually ! Forget it. Certainly no chance of getting pregnant, so it works on that level, meanwhile having destroyed what little confidence you may have gained by meeting someone nice. And they are so hard to find.  

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