How do I cope 2.....narcissistic mother?

U need to cut ties debz shes emotionally damaging. Sounds v narcassistic in nature & has little regard for u.. kping this revolving door open for her isnt working clearly maybe she only knows and wants wats best for her xxx

Hi debz yes my dear it certainly sounds as if your mother has those traits. I personally can't even try to comprehend the pain associated with losing a child in the manner you have

Your mother clearly displays no empathy or understanding for your situation and I fear only a toxic relationship is developing, the good thing is as you stated you have only ever seen this woman once a week your whole life so cutting ties with her should although some may feel not ideal it should be rather easy to do from a distressing angle

You should never feel the need to explain why you have tattoos they are there because we want them and they have significant meaning to the individual.

Personally I had no parents was always envious of others ya know but then now I think I don't miss what I have never had I imagine that's how it's going to be for you she doesn't seem to be be a good role model I can't imagine what benifet she could have within your life.

However I'd suggest maybe more distancing yourself from her make her realise her attitude toward you has got to change so left the door ajar at first is my advice and I'll explain why the fear of losing you completely may just be enough of a kick up the butt to ensure she changes her ways ( not defiantly of course but who knows it may turn into a blossoming relationship) and number two is if you leave the door open and she fails to walk through it for you you havnt really made that decision ya know you have her the choice to cut someone off could end up playing on your mind in a few year you may feel over whelmed with guilt so protect yourself early leave the door open advice her this is what your doing if she chooses not to walk through that door for you you can never say you didn't try you never need feel guilty just a suggestion Hun x

Hi again Debz - yes she sure sounds like a narcissist. My mother is the same - knows everything and tnothing anyone does is good enough because she "knows" she can do better. There are two things you can do:

1/ keep your weekly "appointments" with her. Everytime she makes a condescending comment/statement/opinion about you, what you do, or about your life, in any language, call her out on it: "I have this tattoo because I love my son and it is my private memorial of his life. And this other tattoo means a lot to me - I didn't get it just for the sake of it. In future, I would appreciate it if you would respect that." Use this phrasing to counteract anything she says that belittles you.

2/ Cut her out of your life. Start by stating that you are "unavailable to meet this week." Use it again the next week and the next, etc. etc. Eventually she will demand to know why you are avoiding her. "I can no longer tolerate the demeaning things you say to/about me."

You have said it yourself: "I have only seen her once a week my whole life and now I dread it. I give her chance after chance, only to be more disappointed."

Insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different outcome. You need to put yourself and your mental wellbeing first, and be strict about it.