How do I cope
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I work in healthcare which puts me in a very bad spot, since I can easily contract almost everything in the world. I was always careful when it came to sex, always washing my hands etc. I was with my X fiancee for 9 years, We broke up almost a year ago. I was diagnosed with herpes on Monday September 18th, 2017. I am now so afraid of everything. I feel like damaged goods. I haven't told a soul. I just feel like my life is over. Every time I think about it, I start crying so hard. I have read some stuff when I am alone. I am ok with being alone for the rest of my life ( or so my head tells me right now). I guess I am in denial as I don't want to believe that I have herpes. I know that there are so many people that are infected. I just need to know that I am not alone as strange as that sounds.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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JJ55 unabletograsp
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You are not alone that's for sure. I think everyone feels that way. I know I do, I don't know how old you are but I am 60 just found out 3 mo ago I had herpes. I don't know what my life will be like the person who gave it to me knew he had herpes and didn't tell me so I am not sure I can trust , on top of that my closes friends I thought I could count on and I only told them have turned there backs on me so I am alone and I don't want to be
unabletograsp JJ55
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Thank you for taking the time to respond. I am 49 years old, single and I have 2 kids. I honestly have no idea how I got this, or how long it has been hidden in my body. They say that you have your first outbreak about 2 weeks after contact, but I haven't had sex for over a year and it's just now showing up?
JJ55 unabletograsp
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I was with this guy off and on for 7 years. I know where he got it but it was to late. He is mad at me will not neven talk to me. I guess if he would just apologize it wouldn't be so bad I am just taking it one day ah a time
unabletograsp JJ55
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I am sorry that he has decided not to face the facts. I am content with being alone. I don't want to destroy someone else's life over this. I don't know if I will ever be able to tell anyone. So degrading.
JJ55 unabletograsp
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I don't want to spend the last year's of my life alone but I too don't want to mess up someone life either. I am scared to even kiss anyone So I guess I will be alone I can no I will survive
unabletograsp JJ55
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My Dr's office called me today wanting to schedule a pap smear. I was so defensive. Like haven't you given me enough bad news?
As for being alone, I like having my freedom to come and go as I please and not have to answer to anyone. And like you said one day at a time. What else can you do?
JJ55 unabletograsp
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So true what else can we do. You know the saying karma's a B***H well this guy had a stroke a month after all this
unabletograsp JJ55
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Wow that's crazy.
I could either let this take me down and give up on my life, or I can try and understand this and do what I have to do to stay safe and have some sort of life. I will not let this define who I am as a person.
JJ55 unabletograsp
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One day at a time .... Have faith.........You are young and a cure is found say next year Who knows but we can make it for sure. I will stay around just to prove to him that he can't destroy me!!!!!!
unabletograsp JJ55
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Thank you so much, I am glad that we chatted. I am so hoping for a cure but with how many people have this, I don't feel that a cure is even being worked on.
JJ55 unabletograsp
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unabletograsp JJ55
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FelizCastus unabletograsp
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If you've never had an outbreak and were only diagnosed by blood test, then that's not necessarily conclusive. The blood tests vary a lot in their accuracy, so it depends on the exact type of blood test you had done and how you scored.
unabletograsp FelizCastus
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I have had swabs and blood work done. My swabs have come back positive but I don't have my results from the blood test yet. I just had my first outbreak over the past few weeks.
ashleyjanay09 unabletograsp
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I was recently just diagnosed with hsv2, I've been reading a lot of post on this forum and they are all so helpful, I feel disgusting, all I've done is cry, I'm not sure what to even do with my life now, I have a 6 year old daughter and I'm so scared for her!
JJ55 ashleyjanay09
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First thing you are not disgusting!!!!! None of us are. Yes I felt that way too but not for long. Like they say I put my big girl panties on ..... I couldn't feel sorry for myself if I had I would've been in big trouble. My doctor was really great we talked for a long time not many doctors would take the time do do that but she did it really helped to have her beside me.Then I found this group and that really was a big help. Anytime day or night someone is there to chat with helping others try to understand what to do or not .If you have read the first part of this discussion you know I am a lot older . wiser maybe but we can handle this .Your little girl will be just fine you just have to be more careful you can do that. Have faith in your self....
unabletograsp ashleyjanay09
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JJ55 is right. Yes this is horrible that we have. Sometimes even after I shower I still feel dirty. I will tell you what your going to do with your life. You are going to talk to professionals, doctors, nurses, councilors , then you will read everything you can get your hands on about herpes. Soon you will learn what you need to learn to help you and your daughter live as close to a normal life as you can. Why do I know your going to do this? Because it's the next step that you will take. I still cry over this. I know it's going to be an uphill battle but you have now found a support system and that is us. We are all going through this,some have kids ( I do) and some don't. We are all here to help each other, please don't be afraid or ashamed to ask questions. That is the only way your going to learn.
JJ55 unabletograsp
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I agree 100% unabletograsp need to tell it like it is!!!!We going to cry,cuss,laugh,& pray together..... life goes on WITH US.