How do I cope with my partner

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My partner has been diagnosed with anxiety and depression but I fear it's more than that.

He has refused to take his medication for the last month meaning his mood swings are out of control. He hits me all the time and smashes up my home to the point where he is now doing it infront of my family and getting knives threatening to kill me and himself. I've tried to talk to his family and his Dr but they say that it's not a concern that he's like this and I have to just leave him to calm down when he's having an episode, that's fine but he traps me in rooms, takes my phone so I can't call for help and if I manage to escape outside he chases me screaming abuse at me, I get it at home and my work. Nobody is interested in helping so am thinking of moving out of the area to be free from him only he doesn't go to work most days and is constantly being sacked, he says it's because I'm cheating on him that he has to be home to catch me out even though he tells me every day that he is cheating on me and how I'm a fat disgusting who*e who deserves to have her face smashed in. I'm completely lost at what to do next. I don't want to turn my back on him after everybody else has but I'm scared that if I get him to leave he will make me pay.

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    Hi Abby, if he refuses to take his medication and is dangerous then he needs to be sectioned under the mental health act (if your in the uk), what your experiencing is physical and emotional abuse abd your husband needs to be treated by professionals as he us obviously very ill.

    Do not put up with this behaviour as something more serious will eventually happen, if you leave and he does something then your not responsible for his actions.

    Have you ever phoned the police, if he takes your phone so you can't phone for help I'd get a second phone and keep it from him.

    Im surprised his dr had not taken your situation seriously, that is professional negligence.

    Its obvious your at risk and you have to put yourself first and it is not acceptable for your husband to do what he is doing, he needs to be in hospital or you need to get away from him.

    Please keep us posted on what is happening as we care for your wellbeing! 


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      He has told his Dr that it's all my fault he is like this, that I put things in his head so I can control him, I've been refused to be allowed in the room when he talks to her and if I try to speak to her behind his back i get told it's patient confidentiality as can't be discussed. How do I get him sectioned when I'm stonewalled at every point?? I'm lost at the moment and don't know which way to turn. Even today we went to the supermarket so he drove erratically to scare me then starting saying that he was only waiting for another woman to look at him the right way so he could leave my fat ass all this was infront of other customers so I'm then left to walk around bumping into these people down the aisles. Ive tried to phone the police but he smashes up my phone's and has removed the locks from the bathroom door so I can't escape his episodes. It's a mess right now as even going to work is no escape because I never know when he's gonna turn up and start accusing me of things with customers. We live in a tiny village where everyone knows everyone so have got to the point now where I'm too ashamed to go out incase I have to see anyone

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    I'm so sorry that you are going thru this..  Such abuse should not be tolerated.  This is so aggravating that he is under Dr's care but yet told you to butt out!! My spouse's Dr told me this too which I still don't understand because WE know them best. He always tells the Dr he is 'fine'.  Please be safe and get out of there.  Do you have a trusted friend that you can start putting your important personal items with?  Because once you leave, he will likely destroy your 'things'.   

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    Keep this evidence safe--- you will need it to put him where he belongs.  He is a danger to himself and to others.   You must have a few friends that can help....   And as far as your work goes-- if he is a distraction at your workplace, the boss should call the police.  He should not be a nuisance at your work. 
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