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I'm just new here and found this site by chance, when researching male depression. I'm really hoping someone will be able to offer some support to me or advice in helping someone with depression.
Basically I think my partner is suffering from depression. He is exhibiting a lot of the symptoms of depression and I'm really scared that if he doesn't get help we are going to lose him to depression or completely lose him all together, if you know what I mean.
He is very very angry at the minute, has been very emotionally abusive toward me and seems very egotistical and power crazy. Which is very unlike him and there is no reason for this kind of the behaviour, it seems very out of the blue. At the beginning I thought he was just being a really nasty person, but when I read that these are symptoms of depression, I thought about all the other symptoms he has displayed. Escapist behaviour (running away from responsibilities), trouble sleeping and disturbed sleep, very snappy, little interest in his children, compulsively working, very miserable and down in the dumps all the time and turning to alcohol amongst other things. He also has back and foot pain which seems to come and go. When he has this pain he'll just take to his bed for days. Doctors can't find a cause for the pain and I've read that depression in men can also manifest as physical pain which cannot be explained by doctors.
He mentioned to his mum and myself a few weeks back that he thought he may be depressed. Although when I reached out to him and asked him to get help and told him I would support him through it, completely denied he had depression!! It's so clear to see for everyone abound him that things aren't right, but he's the only one who can't see it. It's terribly sad. I know I cannot force him to get help and I don't want to keep saying 'I think you have depression' incase I make him close off more.
I suppose I'm just left wondering what I can do? Do I just leave him and hope he realises himself and gets help? If anyone has any advice or has been through the same thing, I'd love to hear from you about your experiences. I'm really at my wits end and don't know what to do
Thanks for reading!
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