How do I learn when to stop?

Yes Jen. Google 'The Sinclair Method.' You are an ideal patient for that, from what you describe. It's a medical treatment (not psychological) and has a success rate far higher than traditional behavioural approaches (78% compared to less than 10%).

Hi Jen, you sound like me I tried to stop or cutback on my own and it never worked out in the long term.  I found a treatment that I have found really helps, I had to get it by my own methods but google The Sinclair Method.  I have cut my units by a third, I now know when I am starting to get drunk and have the power to stop drinking (if I wish) and I dont crave that Friday night drink (in fact I can take it or leave it), dont even mind driving when we go out for food (that would never have happened prior to being on TSM).  My catalyst was a family afternoon party where by 5pm I had completely over done the wine and really badly insulted/offened my nephews partner - she still has not forgiven me, I don't blame her (I was told what I had said as I dont remember a thing).  I knew something had to change and it has.  Thank goodness.  I wish you all the best and if I can help please just ask, no judgements here. x

Hi Jen, I have been exactly the same as you. Staying dry all week, but then when Friday comes i have a high knowing that I can start drinking. It's not just a bottle of wine but a good measure of vodka or whiskey as well. And yes, like you I get argumentative and loud, which usually ends up in a row with my hubby. After my 50th two weeks ago, I decided enough was enough and am taking one day at time. Yoga really helps, as you learn to love yourself and deep breathing comes into it as well. All I keep thinking is the first half of my life was booze but not the second half. Try staying away from boozy situations for a while and change your routine on a weekend. Try something that absorbs your mind that u enjoy. If I can do it for seven days and have little will power then I'm sure u can give it a go . Take care and keep talking.