How do I learn when to stop?

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I don't drink in the week, but when i drink on say a Saturday, I drink to the point of no return.  I make my husband, sons and close family sad as I become out of control and very argumentative,  I hate myself the following day, and say never again, but when the followng weekend arrives, its starts again.  I feel ashamed and could really do with some help, any ideas?

 

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    Yes Jen. Google 'The Sinclair Method.' You are an ideal patient for that, from what you describe. It's a medical treatment (not psychological) and has a success rate far higher than traditional behavioural approaches (78% compared to less than 10%).

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    Hi Jen, you sound like me I tried to stop or cutback on my own and it never worked out in the long term.  I found a treatment that I have found really helps, I had to get it by my own methods but google The Sinclair Method.  I have cut my units by a third, I now know when I am starting to get drunk and have the power to stop drinking (if I wish) and I dont crave that Friday night drink (in fact I can take it or leave it), dont even mind driving when we go out for food (that would never have happened prior to being on TSM).  My catalyst was a family afternoon party where by 5pm I had completely over done the wine and really badly insulted/offened my nephews partner - she still has not forgiven me, I don't blame her (I was told what I had said as I dont remember a thing).  I knew something had to change and it has.  Thank goodness.  I wish you all the best and if I can help please just ask, no judgements here. x

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      The worst thing is the not remembering, and then once your told it's the shame that follows.  As my friend said to me, I am a lovely person inside and out, but drink turns me into a monster.  Will look at the Sinclair method this evening, once i am home from work.  Thanks for your advice. smile

       

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    Hi Jen, I have been exactly the same as you. Staying dry all week, but then when Friday comes i have a high knowing that I can start drinking. It's not just a bottle of wine but a good measure of vodka or whiskey as well. And yes, like you I get argumentative and loud, which usually ends up in a row with my hubby. After my 50th two weeks ago, I decided enough was enough and am taking one day at time. Yoga really helps, as you learn to love yourself and deep breathing comes into it as well. All I keep thinking is the first half of my life was booze but not the second half. Try staying away from boozy situations for a while and change your routine on a weekend. Try something that absorbs your mind that u enjoy. If I can do it for seven days and have little will power then I'm sure u can give it a go . Take care and keep talking.

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    Keep yourself busy in other activities.do exercise daily.
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      I have increased my excercise and with thanks to Pokemon Go, my children want me to go everywhere with them, we covered over two miles in just under an hour last night, so no too bad.

       

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