How do I overcome memories of past workplace bully?

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Hey guys

I hope you are all well.

Recently I have been getting terrible memories of my past workplace bully.

The things he used to say to me on a daily basis were crippling and whenever I remember it I feel helpless and embarrassed.

How do I get over this memory and stop it affecting my current outlook at work and with friends?

Thanks for your help

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    Every time you think of this memory. Say to myself how fortunate I am to be away from this horrible work place. Don"t let it affect your current job. I don"t know if your spiritual or not, but what i do I ask God to please let these thoughts leave me.Think of a happy time n your life. Don't let this control your thoughts..Do not be embarrassed, as you get more involved with your job and your friends, that will occupy your mind. There's no harm in speaking to a counselor.     I'm a 72 year old female I worked with all kinds of people, and some can be cruel. It's just ignorance on there part.They have such a low opinion of themselves and maybe jealous of your knowledge.they feel the need to put you down.  I hope this helps you somewhat.  Be Well Buckminster

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    Hello there. I know how painful thoughts like that can be as I was raised by a step-father that berated me all the time from age 12. He became the critical parent in my mind always putting me down until I realized that I was doing to myself what he use to do to me. So... I started writing in the mornings and I could see what I was thinking and feeling and it helped me catch the negative thoughts on a daily basis. Then I prayed God would take them. Next I started changing them to something that made me happy when I caught myself thing those painful thoughts. But the first step was becoming aware and writing daily helped me. I decided to stop letting abusive people live "rent free" in my head! For me it took time lots of time and work and I still work but the work pays off! Don't know if this will help you but I sure hope so. At any rate good luck you are not alone! You deserve success!!

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    Hi I am the same as Adidiane except it was my mother who criticised me constantly under the guise of 'helping' me.

    Congratulate yourself for getting away from this bully and concentrate on the positive rather than the negative. Well done.  x

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    I would tell myself that I am not going to allow this person to further control my life.  Write him/her a letter, say everything you want to say then tear it up and bury or burn it.  Don't let the bully win.  It's their goal to upset your life and make you feel inferior.  You have to understand that it is they who feel inferior so they have this need to put others down to feel better about themselves.  Pity them because they are sick and misguided and move on with your life.

     

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    Hey there!

    For overcoming such troublesome thoughts, I think that you should engage in some activity which interests you or you should try and expressing yourself through speaking out to someone you trust or by writing or drawing things (if you feel you are good at it). You can also try meditation and breathing exercises when you feel disturbed by those thoughts. If you feel that these do not help or it has been affecting your life at a larger extent, you should consider going to a specialist, such as eWellness Expert. Hope this helps. Take care smile

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