How do I stop being scared of an old bully from doing something terrible to me?
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Hey guys
I hope you are well.
Cut a long story short, in recent years I have been terribly scared by haunting memories of a bully from high school.
During high school I said stupid things and made a full of myself to which he used against me. Over the years it resulted in him threatening me (Gangster) by saying he would destroy me and bring me ass down.
This happened because at one stage I had enough and retaliated by saying I would get my brother and his gang to sort him out (lie).
The thing I worry about now is with the power he may have through his organised crime family, that if I bumped into him again they could do something terrible to me.
Please how do I stop this fear? Thanks for your help
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DarkDancingZoe Guest
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I have struggled with abuse myself, what I do is try to meditate. But I'm not sure I had a gangster abuse me.
DarkDancingZoe Guest
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Also I may suggest calling the cops, or getting therapy. Or both. But it this point I'm not sure the police can do anything.
hypercat Guest
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Hi just make sure you don't bump into him. If you do get out of his vicinity asap and keep quiet.
I think if he was going to do something to you he would have by now. As far as he is concerned you are just a kid he bullied a while ago and he has probably forgotten all about you by now.
Are you having some form of counselling? Maybe this would help put your fears to rest.
wayne1962 Guest
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Bullies are a strange breed. When approached with the olive branch in front of witnesses in a situation that demands focus and reasoning they reveal themselves to be hateful with no concrete reason. They are forced to use their brains instead of muscle. You will earn respect for having the balls to face them on their turf and the problem will evaporate. Bullies thrive on the notion their target is weak - weaker than them. Facing them openly takes strength.
Having said that, you are the best judge as to whether this suggestion is viable. Best of luck whatever you decide.