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How do I tell my girlfriend of 4 years I have genital herpes?

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IGully
IGully

I know this Sounds crazy rite?I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!!! Well, let me start at the beginning. I have a girlfriend of which I've been together with for 4 years and on top of that... we have 2 beautiful kids together. Anyway, I've been exposed to hsv2 before I got involved in a relationship with her. My ex had it and assured me it wasn't anything to worry about since she took medicine everyday and she had no bumps or anything. So, being the "in-love fool" that I was I completely disregarded her having hsv and enjoyed our relationship worry free. Also, I've never had any signs of having caught hsv from her so I believed her. Fast foward 4 years later and these bumps appear on my penis. I'M DEVASTATED!!! Not only do I not know how to tell her but, what if she thinks I cheated and leaves me? Even knowing I didn't cheat I couldn't bare losing her. Also, we're in the National Guard. Meaning, we get tested for diseases and things of that nature. I know HIV is something we're tested for certainly but hsv... I'm not to sure. Either way, we've both come back clean everytime. I don't understand how it could be in my system so long without a trace. Please someone, anyone help me. And thank you.

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  • dee10433
    dee10433 IGully

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    just because theres bumps doesnt mean you have hsv it could be something else. try not to worry.

    • IGully
      IGully dee10433

      Posted

      I really hope it's not. It'd possibly ruin everything. I'll live with it if i have too but she'll probably leave me. Here's to hoping the best.

  • seek19785
    seek19785 IGully

    Posted

    first, I would go ahead and get checked out by a doctor asap.. if you can take a photo for later use for the doc. and take note of the progression. anything can resemble Hsv . so the best thing to do is have them swabbed, and maybe a IGG blood test. I would get your professional dig. before breaking the news to tour girlfriend, however, i do think you should let her know of the possibility, and go from there.

    • IGully
      IGully seek19785

      Posted

      I have an appointment Monday. Once I get results I'll go from there

    • seek19785
      seek19785 IGully

      Posted

      good luck, try your best to relax until then

  • anon56922
    anon56922 IGully

    Posted

    Your are tested for HIV every year, but not for HSV. That is only a test that would be performed if your PC suspected you had it...

    • IGully
      IGully anon56922

      Posted

      They test everyone that way. I'm not sure why. It's apart of our physical I believe.

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