How do you deal with the simple fact your herpes positive?DEPPRESSION, FEELING UNWANTED,

I feel heartbroken my bf and I was not going well as it is. Then tell him this so he checks himself. Not even asked how I am etc. He just turned his back when I needed him the most. Although now I realise not all men are like this plus my understand of herpes is much better I do feel one day will be happy with someone.

I just think you need to let him go hun. One day you will meet someone who truly deserves you. Some men are horrible.

Seeing this makes me cry,because I feel so bad for you, but I understand. Life is hard and it throws us all kinds of curve and hard balls. It's how we deal with it ,that determines the outcome. I know you have history with this man as well as love him dearly,so being rejected is gonna hurt. The best advice I can give you is to vent as much as possible, cry when you feel you need to. Don't hold your feelings inside, that's the worst thing anyone of us can do. If you have no one to vent to, come to this site, there's always someone willing to share a few caring words. And also you know you can call me anytime,day or night I'm here for you. We spoke about these type of feelings yesterday. I know there's no way to prepare yourself for them, but you have to stay strong and positive. Don't stress yourself out, cause that makes it worst. You're a very smart, kind and intelligent person and you deserve better. God will place that individual in your presence when the time is right. Don't let herpes or that guy define you. Know your worth, and realize he lost out, not you. God bless you.

Hun, you need to go see a counselor. It is not healthy that you wanted to continue a relationship w someone who treated you poorly and lied to you. I too used to let men walk all over me and treat me like I was nothing and that's because seep inside you feel like you are nothing. You have got to get help, so you do not continue the pattern. The hurt and self loathing you have for yourself outside of herpes is much more damaging to yourself and future relationships and painful than herpes by a million. Herpes is nothing in the grand scheme of things. You worry about rejection w herpes, but you choose men who reject you basically in every other aspect anyway. When you get help and learn to love yourself, you will attract only men who arw functional, respectful, well intended and have your best interest at heart and they will accept your condition. But I'd you continue on in the dysfunctional pattern you have from being w this man, you will deal w a lot more damaging pain than herpes. Look at you right now. You're more devastated by him leaving you than about the herpes. That is what life will continuously be like if you don't seek out help.