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how does transmitting herpes work I'm so confused

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anonymous_56362
anonymous_56362

Me and my bf havedated for 1 month now

Ive been recently diagnosed with genital herpes

We both gave oral sex to each other how come he doesn't have cold sores nor I

And how come I'm the only one showing symptoms but bot him

We only done it 2 times and without protection 1 time a week by the 3rd week I couldn't take the pain that's how I knew I had the virus 

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  • Anonymous111
    Anonymous111 anonymous_56362

    Posted

    Its a weird virus. Some people get ulcers where they're infected some don't. Mostlikely both of you will be infected - orally and genitally - but you were unlucky and got genital symptoms and he didn't. He may get ulcers in the future - its difficult to predict.

  • Guest
    Guest anonymous_56362

    Posted

    both of us are asymptomatic, until the time I got rushed to the hospital with high amd low fever and that's when I found out and I was diagnosed Igg 2

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus anonymous_56362

    Posted

    Herpes can be transmitted without visible symptoms present by what's called asymptomatic shedding.

  • anonymous_56362
    anonymous_56362

    Posted

    So in other words I have both and he does too?

    But does that mean he gave them to me?  

    Since I started getting symptoms after i became sexually active with him

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus anonymous_56362

      Posted

      He probably has asymptomatic oral herpes, or symptomatic oral herpes but no recent visible outbreak, and passed it to your genitals via asymptomatic shedding during oral sex. He should be immune to getting it genitally if he already carries it orally. If you never had it orally, you are susceptible and 20% of those who acquire it are unlucky enough to get it with symptoms. If you only have gHSV1, however, it's not much of an issue after the first outbreak. Did you ever confirm type?

    • anonymous_56362
      anonymous_56362 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Yeah I talked to the families regular OB GYN he said I came out positive for the 1 in my genital area but negative for the 2 but they still put me as positive

      I got a question too

      If I bleed during sex does that mean I got contagious around that time or could I get someone else contagious 

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus anonymous_56362

      Posted

      Bleeding makes no difference. When the virus is active and shedding, it can technically be carried by any secretions passing over it, whether blood or otherwise. Herpes is not blood-borne itself, however.
    • anonymous_56362
      anonymous_56362 FelizCastus

      Posted

      But I mean that if there was a bigger risk of ether of us getting contagious because of the bleeding

      But yeahim justeorried since I have to talk to him tomorrow 

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