How I cured my vulvodynia

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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.

Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-

First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel  - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.

i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase. 

Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.

The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the  amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.

Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons). 

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    I thought I was better because it did not hurt that much when I had my period. However when I sat down without the donut it hurt more that what it did the first time. So I dont understand anymore. Its been a year and its like nothing works. I decided to give botox injections a try but I'm scared the gynie said I had to be awake to feel where the pain is. Has anyone done it before?

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      yes, I know I thought so too. But now im not sure. When I sit without the donut it feels like i pressed my vulva it into something really heavy. It gives me some pressure. Should I keep trying to sit because my fysio said I need to train to sit normally so I'm trying to but every time I get up I feel this pressure and then it goes away. And sometimes when I sit I feel it stinging me a little. Should I keep doing it?

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      personally, I don't think you should sit normally if it aggravates it. If you want to retrain the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain then you need to do it by a gradual build up using manual desensitisation. I have been pain free for 5 years and I still sit on a donut cushion if I am going to be sitting for long periods, although sitting normally is no problem for me - I do it just in case (I don't want it to come back). Remind me what treatments / actions you have taken.

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      i am not sure what you need to do, lets wait till someone reply, i never used the donut. maybe you should try to do it for a week and see if it helps?

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      Okay, yeah I understand. I try to massage around the area. I am going to my fysio and she massage other places. I also do psychomotor physiotherapy. I just started though so I dont know exactly if it helps. But my fysio send me there because she said I was really tense in my whole body. Which I am by the way it started to hurt to sit on the pillow not because of the problem area but because I just sat on it too much. It pressed in places it should not have pressed and my legs started to hurt as well. I am quite small and the donut is not made for me.

      I stopped going to the acupuncturist because I did not feel it helped that much in the end. I went there once a week since the summer break and well I felt it did make it worse in a way. It might be because I got a device that shoot current or electricity through my feet and it helped a lot I believe. I still use lidocaine cream 5% and shower my hair and body separately. Also use coconut oil to clean the area. I got a pelvic floor program yoga kind of a thing as well and I do some exercises sometimes.

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      But the manual desensitisation how do you do that? Do you touch the area where the pain is or do you touch right beside the problem area?

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      You touch the painful area. Only very lightly at first and gradually build it up over time. i started with just one very light stroke once a day for a week, then two stokes, then three, etc. The idea is to do it so as not to cause lasting pain. If you do get lasting pain after, you need to cut back. I got up to 100 light strokes them started increasing the pressure. Once i was at 100 firm strokes i started using vaginal dilators. There is a book i used that explains how to become aware of your pelvic floor, how to consciously tense and relax it and how to build up the touch and use vaginal dilators. It also teaches how to have positive thoughts. It is called 7 steps to pain free sex.

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      Okay thanks. Do you touch it really lightly so you don't feel it or do you want to feel a little bit? I don't know when I have done too much until I'm there. How do you know?

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      Trial and error! You might feel a bit of pain when touching and briefly afterwards but it must not cause lasting increase in pain afterwards.

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    Its hard to know that you touch it correctly. Im scared to touch it and the lasting pain is back. I think I did it right yesterday but I had to do it in a long time. Sometimes I felt the pain when I just touched it lightly and sometimes I needed to go deeper. It changed all the time. Its weird sometimes its really sensitive and other times its not really that sensitive is that normal? Did that happen to any of you? And also did any of you have the pressure when you sit on it or lay with your legs crossed? Its really wired I feel the pressure when I stand up from sitting.

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    Okay so I tried to massage and it was okay but I cannot do the dilator thing because my pain area is the hole where I pee or really close to it. I don't know how to touch the area longer than outside. Do I have to put the finger inside the urethra?

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      You don't insert anything inside until you have progressed well with the external stroking. I got to 100 firm strokes (that took months) with no pain before i started to put 1 finger in, then 2 fingers, then the dilators.

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      Yes I know, but I meant later I was wondering what I should do? It's different for me because the vulvodynia is not in my vagina. So do I have to put a finger in my urethra? I have already hold my finger there for an hour and it hurt a bit but it did not last. However I feel like I have to take it to the next level at a point and what is that?

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      I mean what should I do? Stick my finger longer inside its so weird..

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