How I cured my vulvodynia
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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.
Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-
First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.
i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase.
Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.
The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.
Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons).
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Diamoon555 Suki_girl
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thank you
aya62785 Suki_girl
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Hi, Suki! Very interesting your story! I'm a 21 year old student, still a virgin and i think i have vestibulodynia. It all started last year in August, i felt pain, burning with or without touch from the vagina opening till the clitorist. Right now i can't touch the vestibule and the clitorist without feeling pain . My inner labia is very swollen, even the place between my inner and outer labia is swollen. Basically, my whole vulva is severely inflamed and swollen. I went to an OBGYN and after doing a test she told me i have an yeast infection, but after 2 treatements for candida nothing changed. I can't stand touching my vestibule and clitorist, it gives me severe pain and a burning sensation. I fear this might be congenital neuroproliferative vestibulodynia since this condition can be treated only with surgery and that's something i can't afford, but my clitorist also hurts so i don't know what to think. Did anyone experience severe swelling with this condition? Sorry for my grammar mistakes, english is not my first language.
rachel1million aya62785
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@aya62785 i used to have very similar symptoms including the swelling. I took a 6 month course of fluconazole to clear up the candida. I still had the burning sensation but saw a pain specialist who said that years of pain with endometriosis and being prone to yeast infections meant my brain was programmed to anticipate the pain and discomfort even when the physical triggers were no longer there. He also said that chronic pain can make you sensitive to touch eg your underwear touching your skin. I took gabapentin for 2 years to 'reprogramme' the neural pathways and wake up pain dampners on the nerve endings. I had psychosexual therapy which was helpful but the real turning point for me was seeing a woman's health physio. I am pain free most of the time now and i can use the stretches from physio to help when i have a flare up. I also use cetraben cream to wash with and this prevents my vulva getting dry, I also use yes organic water based lubricant.
hope you find some relief @aya62785, it sounds like trying some different treatments for the yeast infection would be a good idea before resorting to surgery. i would recommend looking at Betty Dodson's work, she specialises in female pleasure, her website has info on vulvodynia, my therapist recommended betty's book sex for one, which i found really empowering when i read it (she also features in episode 2 of goop currently on netflix). good luck!
aya62785 rachel1million
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Happy to hear that you feel better now. I went to another OBGYN and this time the test showed that i no longer have candida, the doctor even did a STDs test and everything come back negative. She thought that i might have dermatitis and gave me a corticosteroid cream that made everyting worse. Two hours after i applied the cream, i started to feel like someone is pouring acid on my vulva. It was horrible! I asked her if this could be vulvodynia and she told me that's impossible because only someone who tries to have sex but can't because of the pain can have this condition. No one is taking my pain seriously and i really don't know what to do anymore. Here where i live there's no pain specialist and the gyneacologists i saw have little to no information about vulvodynia. 😦( I also suffer from constipation and that makes the pain worse when i go to the toilet. I don't know if these two conditions are related or not.
Suki_girl aya62785
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Your OBGYN clearly has no idea. Of course you can have vulvodynia pain without sex. I has burning all the time. Sex can aggravate it, sure, as can chemicals. When I had vulvodynia I found that my vulva area was extremely sensitive to almost all creams and using them just made it worse (e.g. lidocaine, steroid). Even water based lube stung me. All I could tolerate on there was natural oils.
aya62785 Suki_girl
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Even though my first OBGYN told me i have candida, every cream she told me to use didn't help me at all and after using them for a week i started to feel worse. The thing is my vulva is also red and swollen, not all the time, mostly when the pain is severe that i can barely walk or sit on a chair. That's why the last gyneacologist i saw thought i have dermatitis and gave me a corticosteroid cream. Also, when i walk i feel like needles are poking my outer labia and mons pubis. Does this sound like generalized vulvodinia?
susan05495 Suki_girl
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i was misdiagnosed for years constantly being told i had candida but when i used the creams it made it worse . The doctor then said i had dermatitis and the steroid cream made it worse . i finally got to see a specialist on Vulva dynia . i was put on ami , dailly antihistamine , ibuprofen and lidocaine . I am at long last totally free of pain . I had a flare up 6 months ago and i am progesterone sensitive on my HRT when that was adjusted the pain went .
Are you on contraceptive pill as that can trigger it ?
Suki_girl aya62785
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it most certainly does.
joan86718 aya62785
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hope u can find a competent specialist
joan86718 Suki_girl
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organic coconut oil can be helpful
aya62785 susan05495
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Ibuprofen? Does that help when you have vulvodynia? No, i'm not on contraceptive pill. There's something i forgot to mention, something similar happened when i was 14, i felt pain when i tried to touch my clitoris and vestibule, but i didn't experience swelling and that constant burning sensation. The pain disappeared after a couple of months. Now it's 100 times worse than what i felt when i was 14.
aya62785 joan86718
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Thank you! I hope so, too!
aya62785 Suki_girl
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Then i think i have a severe case of vulvodynia. 😦
Suki_girl joan86718
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I know, I found it soothing.
Suki_girl aya62785
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Mine extended from my vaginal opening to my anus and caused constant severe burning so that I couldn't sleep or function on a daily basis. But I was determined to be rid of it and tried everything.
susan05495 aya62785
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ibuprofen helped me . Have you tried lidocaine ?
Suki_girl susan05495
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I do think it is hormone related. I was not on the pill when mine started but I had entered pre-menopause.
aya62785 susan05495
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No, i haven't, but tbh i'm scared to put anything on the vulva rn and i've read that lidocaine can make the pain worse for some women. Right now i'm trying to wash only with water down there and i think it kinda helps. The pain and swelling are not that bad anymore. I'll try to do that until i find someone who can help me! Thank you all for your messages and advices! 😗
aya62785 Suki_girl
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I'm happy for you, that you're pain free now. I hope that i'll be like you someday!