How I cured my vulvodynia

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I see so many posts on here about constant or provoked vulva pain that I thought it might be useful if I explained vulvodynia and how I cured mine. Vulvodynia literally means vulvar pain and is a condition of the nerves in that area. The nerves have become hyperactive and hypersensitive due to trauma which can be chemical or physical in source or due to infection. I think mine was due to persistent thrush infection and the many remedies I tried to cure it, including home remedies such as bathing in a bath with some cider vinegar in - that made my soreness much worse (chemical trauma). Vulvodynia can cause itching, sore or burning sensation and this can be continuous or provoked (only happens when the area is touched). The nerves are so hypersensitive they register touch as pain and the usual way to diagnose it is to touch around the vulvar area with a cotton bud and where the touch registers as pain then that is the affected area. It can involve the whole of the vulvar area or can be in a horseshoe shape toward the posterior (which may also involve the perineum) or the anterior or can be offset to one side. The pain is a form of chronic neuropathic pain because it stems from nerve damage as opposed to nociceptive pain which is caused by tissue damage. Neuropathic pain can be very hard to get rid of. It took me 1.5 years of determination and the occasional disappointing set back to cure my vulvodynia. Probably more like 2 years to get back to normal.

Ok, ready for a long story about how I cured my vulvodynia:-

First I saw a gynaecologist. He took a biopsy of the painful area and confirmed no diseases or cancer. He put me on amitriptyline and steroid cream. These slowly worked for a while and made me comfortable enough to have a long overdue smear test. I had the smear test and the pain came back full force - back to square 1. By that time I had used the steroid cream for as long as is recommended and had stopped it (long term use not recommended). However, desperate to get rid of the pain I tired it again, but this time the cream stung me and made the pain worse. The gynaecologist gave me lynocaine cream to numb the area, but that stung me and made me worse. Nothing was working and in the end the gynae said that he could not cure me he could just help me managed the pain. Well, I wasn't going to put up with that for the rest of my life. So I did some investigating to find someone else who could help me and found a dermatologist consultant in Oxford who specialised in vulva pain. I also found some medication on the internet, made in Italy which is a gel is specifically for treating vulvodynia. It calms down the overactive and hypersensitive nerves. Saginil gel  - you can order it direct from the suppliers, epitech, on their website. You can do this because it is not classed as a medicine because it is made of natural plant-based ingredients. It is expensive, as is the post from Italy, but I am so pleased I bought it because it was the only thing my skin could tolerate there and it did make a difference - it reduced the pain so that it was bearable and I could function better with daily life.

i saw the dermatologist and she told me all the things that she had found worked to get rid of the pain, but nerve pain is difficult to get rid of so she suggested I try them all and stick at it. i was surprised because, appears from upping the amitriptyline dose to 50-70mg a day (I was on 20), the rest of the things were what you would class alternative, or natural, cures. They were: western acupuncture, physiotherapy, chiropraction and manual desensitisation. Now, different things work for different people because there are different causes for the vulvodynia: infection, physical or chemical trauma, hormones, trapped nerve in back. I knew mine was caused by repeated and persistent thrush and the various treatments I tried to get rid of it (including cider vinegar - ouch! No!). So I didn't see a chiropractor because is didn't thing it stemmed from a pelvic nerve problem, however, from what you describe, yours might. I did do yoga exercises that free trapped pelvic nerves. I bought a book on pelvic floor exercises and did those, rather than see a physio. I did the manual desensitisation - this is where you stroke yourself very lightly in the painful area, using non-irritating lubricant (I used oil based lube by yes, or coconut oil), just once the first day. Then each day you gradually build up the strokes in number and pressure. The idea is that you are retraining the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. So, massage yourself there just enough so as not to cause lasting pain afterwards. I built it up until I could do 100 strokes of fairly good pressure, then I moved into inserting a finger, then two, then the tip of my husband's penis and then gradually out him in a little further each time, until I could get most of him in, then starting moving with him in, again gradually building it up each time. I also found a GP that also ran a Western acupuncture clinic. Western means that they leave the meddles in and pass electricity through them. That was what really worked for me - each time I went I just got better and better. Apparently the amitriptyline and the acupuncture work well together to dampen down those hyperactive and oversensitive nerves. I upped the amitriptyline to 50mg as day, very gradually by 5mg every 1 or 2 weeks because it caused side effects so my body needed to adapt to each increase. 

Finally, there are the changes to how you live. No tight clothes, no sex (until you are ready), no exercise (I gradually built that up too but walking just a short distance and gradually increasing it - never do an amount that cause she lasting pain). Go knicker free if you can - I work mainly from home so was able to go around with no knickers on and baggy jogging bottoms or a skirt. Sitting also caused problems (I work at a computer) so I got a ring shoved cushion form woman to use after they have given birth and sat in that so that there was no pressure at all on the sensitive area (dame for driving the car). Coconut oil was soothing (raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil) so I applied that externally and internally with a clean finger after every time I went to the loo (I carried a little pot in my hand bag so I could apply it while out and about with an organic, pesticide and bleach free cotton pad). No scented products on that area, in fact I didn't wash there at all, I used coconut oil to clean the area and when showered I used organic, nasty chemical free and scent free body wash and shampoo and conditioner (because stuff runs down). I also washed my clothes in scent free, kind-to-skin laundry detergent and conditioner. Toilet paper has bleach in it, so I got some tissues that were bleach free and used those to wipe after doing a wee.

The key is to be persistent, try everything, gradually build things up, stick with what works, be determined, don't give in. The consultant dermatologist was very impressed with me because I was so determined and didn't give into urges. She said she had many women who just got fed up with how long it was taking and just went for a long walk / bike ride / horse ride or had sex and put themselves back at square one again. It does take a long time - it took me 1.5 years of all that stuff in my message above to get to being pain free. Even now, 5 years later, I still apply coconut oil after every time I go to the toilet, use tonnes of oil based lube during intercourse, go around the house wear no knickers. I don't want it to come back. I am also still on 50mg amitriptyline a day. At first I was afraid to come off it because the consultant dermatologist told me, you may be pain free, but if you come off it too soon, the pain can come back. So it is best to wait a few months after being pain free. Then menopause set in and I got hot flushes and my GP told me to stay on the  amitriptyline because it helps with hot flushes. My body has adapted to it now. I hope to reduce the dose sometime (gradually, by 5mg very 2 weeks, just like I built it up). I still do pelvic floor exercises - the book I got was called 7 steps to pain-free sex by Claudia Amherd. It is mainly about vaginismus, but the exercises apply to vulvodynia too - just don't do them sitting on a juggling ball (ouch) do them standing up first, then lying down, as it advises in the book. Gradually build up the exercises, doing more and more each time. Again, don't do so much that it causes an increase in pain or lasting pain - cut back if that happens.

Also, you need to get some organic, chemical free sanitary towels for when you have your period (no tampons). 

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    Hi All,

    I have been suffering now for 8 or more years.

    Visited the GP again last night in one final attempt to get some relief before I go down the private route.

    She has prescribed me Lindocaine cream, which I am petrified to use!!! Dont know if any one else cannot use anything down there? shower gel, scented sanitary towels, creams etc.

    she also prescibed me oestrogen, has anyone else tried it?

    I also now have hypertonic pelvic floor muscles due to always being in pain which is playing up today!!

    Thank you to everyone who has shared their story. At least we know we are not alone! x

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      I went privately. GPs cannot really help. THe hypertonic pelvic floor muscles will be contributing to the pain. You need to see a physio who specialises in pelvic floor issues. The lidocaine cream stung me and made me worse. I am fine with oestrogen cream, but I use that now for vaginal atrophy due to menopause - it improves moisturisation and the elasticity of the skin - I am not sure it will help the nerves. What else are you doing? Amitriptyline? Acupuncture? Saginil gel? Manual densensitisation?

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      I was seeing a gynae physio but felt like i was getting no where! On Amitriptyline. need to try accupuncture. Is there any specific steps to follow for desensitisation? feel i am doing it wrong!

      Thats why I am terrified to try the Lidnocaine just because I know how I react to anything down there!

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      I have gone down the private physio route after years of nothing working. It hasn't cured me but it has really helped and i now have stretches i can use to relieve my symptoms, i cant afford to go regularly but go every few months . I take gabapentin too. Apparently the field of vulval pain and dermatology is ever growing, i have just been referred to a new dermatology vulval pain clinic at my local hospital. it's worth ringing up to find out if there is a specialist before asking for a referral as your gp probably won't know.

      I found saginel aggravated my symptoms, i also found the prescription lidocain really burned, but i have found that an over the counter cream that vagisil do which is only £2.50 and has a tiny bit of lidocaine in it, is really soothing. Yes organic lubricant and cetraben cream to wash with also help. i think hormones and stress affect my symptoms. i feel like i might never be totally free from discomfort but am going to keep trying!!

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      i find that the lidocaine initally stings but once couple minutes have passed the stinging subsides . I'm going to take your advice and try vagisil.

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      i wouldnt normally touch vagisil or those feminine hygiene products with a barge pole but i was in home bargains one day, think my kids were browsing the sweets or similar and generally taking a VERY long time! my symptoms were really bad that day, i spotted some vagisil cream and the description on the tube just described what i was feeling so thought i'd give it a go!! and it does help for me so long as i spread it thinly, hopefully it might be helpful for you too. seems to be so different what works for different people x

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      Please all be very careful with lidocaine. My GP told me it is not for long term use. You can become hypersensitive to it.

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      I did not find gynaechologists to be helpful. The big turning point was when I saw a consultant dermatologist who specialises in vulva pain.

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      Thanks Rachel ive bought a tube so going to give it a go . I have days when my symptoms are bearable and others when the burning is awful . I also find ibuprofen every 4 hours helps .

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      yes i rememver you saying that, i'm hopeful seeing someone with a specialist interest in vulval pain will be a turning point for me too, its certainly been good to see a physio with specialist knowledge. Think because there are no visible symptoms it is easy to feel fraudulent or feel like you arent being taken seriously.

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      What does of ami are you on? I believe that is was acupuncture that got rid of my pain completely - after each session I felt noticeably better. I had medical / western acupuncture.

      The key to manual desensitisation is not to rush it and build up very slowly to retrain the nerves to register touch as touch and not pain. Start with just one or two gentle, light strokes with a finger on the affected area once a day. You should do enough not to cause lasting pain afterwards - if you do, cut back. It takes a bit of practice to get it right - you have to listen to your body.

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    Hi everyone

    I have had Vulvodynia for around 18 months now... my unprovoked pain has reduced i'd say 75% which is great but I still avoid wearing tight jeans or going on bikes and things.

    My provoked pain (penetration) I'd say is still the same or reduced by 20%... I have refrained from sex with my partner in fear of the pain and have only tried a few times.

    I did go on amitripcylne for a good 6 months but decided to come off them as I wanted to do it without medication. I rarely use lidocaine as again I wanted to see if I could heal it on my own.

    I obviously have done something right (maybe just by trying to not stress over it) and took my time to get back into exercising.

    Anyway the reason I have posted is because when I saw a gynaecologist this time last year she told me to come off the combined pill (I had been on it for many years due to my skin) as she felt that it may be due to me having a lack of oestrogen and felt if i gave my body a break it would reduce the pain. It has been a year since I have been off the pill and yes the unprovoked pain has reduced alot.. again I am not sure if this is because of the pill or because in my head It was a relief to try something new and may be I just stopped worrying about it so much as I believed every time I got a natural period it would get better.

    My problem now is that I have got bad acne again... I knew my skin would get bad coming off the pill and was one of the reasons I was apprehensive to do so. My doctor gave me skin tablets but nothing has worked like the pill.

    I went to my doctor today and asked for her advice... she told me that she cannot see why the combined pill would have done this and that she thinks I should go on another combined pill for 3 months and see how I go with the vulva pain. I told her about my worries of going back on the pill, but she said "you have nothing to loose and everything to gain" in relation to having clear skin and also not having the worry about getting pregnant when trying to have sex (which is another issue of why I am not having sex as every contraceptive method apart from condoms is hormone based). The doctor has given me some oestrogen cream to apply at night on the painful parts whilst taking the pill to see if it will help.

    I just wanted to see if people have advice or have experienced vulvodynia with the combined pill?

    Kind regards

    Bearbear4

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      hi , I first got Vulvadynia 30 years ago when I was 18 and was on the combined pill . i was convinced they were linked and came off it . Over the ensuing years i have had many attacks . I'm sure linked to stress . Once i had it for 2 years . I had it for 1 day on my wedding day which seriously p****d me off .

      ive now been on HRT for 5 years which is pretty much the same as rhe combined pill . it did not give me Vulvadynia . Over last 3 months i started to bleed and my GP is convinced my own body was still producing some oestrogen and then stopped which triggered the Vulvadynia . She is topping me up with Orstrogen by way of a nightly pessary which i have been taken for 2 weeks . Today ive had a really great day with no pain .

      I would say take your doctors advice .

      As a matter of interest how old are you and did it start suddenley or gradually ?

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      Hi susan

      Thanks for your response.

      I am 24 (25 in 2 months) and my pain started suddenly as it triggered from a bad UTI. I used to get thrush and UTI's quite alot so some doctors think that triggered Vulvadynia.

      So do you think I should try the combined pill again? It's so confusing this condition isnt it...

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      Yes I would definitely give it a go . Your body will be producing Oestrogen and you will get more in the pill and the cream will top you up . As you are so young im sure the top up cream will help and being so young your skin is important for self esteem . I use Lidocaine on the really bad days and it gets me through the day . I've only just started to get penetration issues but everything online says persist as you will desensitise .

      At 25 youre too young to write off a sex life ! you can use lidocaine before to numb then wash it off so it doesnt affect your partner and see if it helps

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      Hi

      thank you for the advice - its hard to stay hopeful but your right cant give up!!

      You say you've had it since you were 18... have you had long periods of time where you've had no pain at all? i just worry that sex will be painful forever but as you have just said the more you do it hopefully the less painful it gets?

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      ive had years without pain. largest period is 10 years but with help of amytriptiline . ive been on it for 15 years and now have no side affects other than carrying an extra stone in weight . its worth it for benefit . im sure this bought is because my hormones have gone a bit haywire due to menopause and mostly my mum died and ive had a year of hell sorting out her estate with a sister in NZ who has done nothing to help !

      im on the upward slope now . over last 3 weeks only had 4 bad days

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      Hi bearbear,

      I haven't heard from you fir a long time. I was wondering how you were doing. I'm pleased to hear that you have had some improvement. I know that there was another post somewhere in these forums where a lady who had vulvodynia had come off the pill and her vulvodynia went away, but I'll be damned if I can find it now. I understand about the acne problem. I have suffered from oily skin and adult acne all my adult life. It was only mild when I was on the pill. I came off the pill once due to some thrombosis scare back in the 1990's and got horrible cystic acne. I went on combined antibiotic tablets (minosin) and duac cream which worked well. The scare blew over and I went back on the pill then came off it some years later in order to get pregnant and managed with just creams while pregnant (but got horrid back acne). I was hoping after having my kids my skin would be better but it was not the case. I was then too old to go back on the pill so I was again on antibiotic tablets (doxycyline) and duac cream for several years and had only mild acne that was concealable and manageable. Have you tried antibiotic tablets and acne creams together (double pronged attack)?

      Now I am in menopause my skin has got dryer, something many women complain about but for me it means clearer skin.

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