How to cope with herpes at a young age
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I just recently found out have herpes... I’m kind of in denial because I have absolutely no pain but I was wondering how to I cope with the thought of this at age 20
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kathy96546 niya15900
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niya15900 kathy96546
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sbbu15 niya15900
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was diagnosed at 23 years old so I understand being young and feeling like your future is ruined. Educate yourself on genital herpes, know the facts, and when it comes to disclosing to a partner you will be able to share them the info to ease their mind. At the end of the day it’s just an annoying skin condition with a bad stigma. The stigma starts with yourself if you accept it and don’t see yourself as being “dirty” then other people won’t either. Guys love confidence and openess and I find guys are way more accepting of me when I disclose. Of course there will be some rejection, but they aren’t worth your time anyways. Someone is going to be with you for YOU, not your body or for sex. You are the same person you were before you got herpes, nothing has changed about you minus the fact that casual sex is harder because you need to disclose. I would get put on daily antivirals if you want to have casual sex, it helps both your partner and you havs a piece of mind since the transmission rate is less than 1% in a whole YEAR if you take daily antivirals, use condoms, and don’t have sex during outbreaks. I promise this isn’t a life sentence, you’ll be okay! Message me if you have any questions
niya15900 sbbu15
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Kela63590 niya15900
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kathryn_77840 Kela63590
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jessica28578 niya15900
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I totally understand how you feel. I was diagnosed at 18! I was depressed for months. I stayed on sites like this for encouragement, and guess what!! It was my saving grace. I didn’t know how I was going to live like this for the rest of my life. There was so much to learn, I had so many concerns.. and of course it sucks. Honestly, it saved me from a lot of things I COULD have gotten myself into. It made me more responsible, I had to make some really tough decisions in my life because of my Herpes diagnosis, but I can honestly say, it made me make the best decisions of my life. I’m married, have 2 boys and doing really well for myself. Another fun fact: There’s love, life and fun after being diagnosed! Your the SAME person. Don’t let this stop you from moving forward in life. If you want to talk. You can message me! And I have a forum if you need words of encouragement!