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How to cope with recent diagnosis?

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Peas
Peas

I went to the doctor the other day for what I thought was just a bad case of thrush, after taking one look she straight away said it looks like herpes (and test results concluded this) In that moment my heart just sank. I still haven't been able to cope with this and I am just so ANGRY at myself. 

I wanted to know what other people have done to cope and wrap their head around their diagnosis. I'm a 24 year old female and recently single, I clearly was not careful enough and now I literally hate myself for being so stupid. I feel like I've ruined my whole life and meeting future people and I don't know what to do.

Please help sad 

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  • Anonymous93
    Anonymous93 Peas

    Posted

    Hey, sorry you're feeling down but I'm here to tell you that it will get better. I was diagnosed about a month ago. I was so surprised because I've been in a committed relationship for 3 years and married for 1 1/2 years. Neither one of us have ever cheated. I went in for whaf I thought was a UTI but when the meds didn't work my doctor knew it had to be something else. A couple of days before I got my results I had a small itchy bump appear on my vaginal lip. It was extremely itchy at first then turned into a painful lesion. What's been helping me get through this is my husband and this discussion board. For the first 2 weeks I would cry all day every day, non stop. But I had to realize that this isn't the end of the world and it will get better. Don't worry about meeting future people, it'll be fine. Do you have any questions?

    • Peas
      Peas Anonymous93

      Posted

      I've seen a lot of people say it'll get better but I am still just so depressed over it. I think my first outbreak is clearing up but I've also had quite a bit of bleeding, did you have that too??

      Also hopefully this isn't too personal of a question but as you have hsv2, can your husband not give you oral sex?

    • Anonymous93
      Anonymous93 Peas

      Posted

      I didn't have any bleeding at all. My first outbreak consisted of one lesion. This was the first one so I was quite surprised when reading everyone elses posts about their first outbreak. This might sound crazy but neither me or my husband have even been talking about sex. I'm not ready to talk about it or even attempt to do it.

    • Peas
      Peas Anonymous93

      Posted

      Oh ok! No that doesn't seem crazy at all, trust me it's the last thing on my mind too haha. I forgot you said it's only been a month so still very fresh for you too.

      I feel like I've had a bad first outbreak, I don't really know how many lesions I had but I think there was a lot sad still feels like a bad nightmare I haven't woken up from yet.

  • jessica93013
    jessica93013 Peas

    Posted

    I was diagnosed in Aug ive been with my husband 16 years and had my first outbreak. I couldnt believe it it was the hardest thing ive ever been thru. At the beginning it hated myself didnt want my husband to touch me. But he loves me and thats all i care about. We thought we couldnt have oral anymore but with alot of reading we cwme to the conclusion that as long as im not having an outbreak or any signs of an out break we dont do
  • Skull2345
    Skull2345 Peas

    Posted

    Pea I feel your pain, I'm still awaiting my results after being tested yesterday but I already have it in my head that it's GH. I'm also single and a mother to a little girl who's 2.5 and I feel like my life is literally over. The thought of dating and having to tell someone this it's hard enough to date before I knew all this. I feel like this is my life now single forever.

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