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Tooconfused1
Tooconfused1

I started my first outbreak about 3 weeks ago,i really didn't know what it was,so I took it as a uti&treated myself,lastnight the pain was to much,so I visited my doctor today,he confirmed I have herpes,i cried like a baby,he put me on meds,but I can't deal with the pain,what can I used to help make this easy!

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  • brandy69218
    brandy69218 Tooconfused1

    Posted

    This breaks my heart for you. I’ve beenin the same boat. Diagnosed last week. And told today it is type 1...on my vagina. I went in for a yeast infection or possible BV which was negative for both. And then told positive for HSV. Totally shocked. Been married for 13 years and only been with my husband. I totally don’t think he has messed around on me but yet i can’t understand what and why this happened. So far the medicine for it (valtrex) but for 10 days only. And then we’ll see if i need to go on a daily. I just feel gross when i know I’m not. We are not nasty people as the hsv stigma seems to be. I can’t tell anyone (except my spouse) and it’s just eating me up too. Plus it hurts. And it’s uncomfortable. I feel your pain. Literally. 
    • maylene679
      maylene679 brandy69218

      Posted

      HEY im in the position where I have to tell the guy I’ve been with for abit that I have genital herpes. How did you go about telling your spouse? I am really nervous to
    • brandy69218
      brandy69218 maylene679

      Posted

      I called him crying. LOL. Probably not the best way or right way. But i was soooooo emotional when i left the office. Just for being tested...then when they called about the results i did the same thing. But i was so angry. Not with him necessarily but just mad at everything and the world about it. My spouse was automatically like “well we know where you got it then” and took the blame. I told him i trusted him and i know he has been faithful. I know a lot of couple jump to that of who has been messing around but honestly this stuff can hide away for years and years and then pop up and men (luckily i guess) don’t always have a physical sign of it like we do so he could have “shedded” the virus at some point and we didn’t even know. You don’t think about being “safe” when you’re married and that doesn’t always prevent the spread of the kinds of heroes either. My husband has been just super supportive and i think he feels guilty and is trying to just be there. I hope your spouse/partner will be as well. And prayers for you...it is such a hard thing to talk about. I’m so glad i found this website. Because honestly holding this stuff in makes it harder. And you really don’t want to walk around telling everyone. So this corny has been a big help. Hugs to you!
    • maylene679
      maylene679 brandy69218

      Posted

      I am glad he is being supportive for you! You really don't think about being safe when you're in a monogamous relationship with someone. I was thinking of pulling the whole crying thing on him but thought that might make him think herpes is a bad and scary thing, so ill try and keep it together. I myself am also very glad i found this website. it is a good place to get help and talk to people who are expiriencing the same things you are. Did the doc get you on meds? i just finished my ten days of valtrex and am unsure as to if i need more cause my sores were really bad and are mostly healed but still bit tender.

  • maylene679
    maylene679 Tooconfused1

    Posted

    Hey I was just diagnosed with herpes simplex 2 a week ago. I had the most painful ulcers by my vagina and anus and thought the pain was never going to go away. I got on antivirals soon as I found out and they made a huge difference. I recommend to take a few epsom salt baths a day, take your meds, get plenty of rest. Go to Walmart too and get some of the pure Cotten underwear too and wear loser fitting clothing. Please don’t cry. Lots of people have this condition and 80% of people who have it don’t even know about it. It is not the end of the world and I promise you will get through this and be okay. Take some Advil and Tylenol in combination, watch a funny movie, and relax. It will all be okay in the end you’ll be better before you know it just feels like it’s never ending. Also make sure you are having bowel movements even if it’s painful because when you are constipated it puts a lot of pressure on the area I find and causes more pain. 

    • Tooconfused1
      Tooconfused1 maylene679

      Posted

      thanks for the info,i just couldn't believe I had it,i think I cried more because of who gave it to me&now he is in denial about it!

    • maylene679
      maylene679 Tooconfused1

      Posted

      I think my current partner may have given it to me as well and i still haven't gotten to talk to him about it cause we have been on greatest terms for the past 2 weeks but were good now. I'm worried he is going to be in denial too. try explaining to him herpes can lie dormant in some people systems for years at a time. I've read of people having situations like that on here before. Hope the meds are helping ya feel better though best of luck to ya!

  • racha
    racha Tooconfused1

    Posted

    The first outbreak is the worst.. I couldn’t go to work, I couldn’t walk properly and I literally thought my life was over from that day. I think I was prescribed aciclovir by my sexual health clinic which helps with the first oubreak, and I took baths in salt which also eased the pain - I also peed in the bath because I couldn’t do it otherwise. Trust me it gets better .. you may be lucky like me since I was diagnosed I’ve only had one more outbreak. I swore by the salt baths though, try it and best of luck xx 
    • Tooconfused1
      Tooconfused1 racha

      Posted

      Thanks, I feel a lot better now the meds are in my system,just gotta deal with the itching!
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