How to deal with someone with avoidant personality disorder?

It seems to me that the Internet is the perfect place for someone with an avoidant personality; online you can have an Intimate relationship without physical contact. It's also easy online to present yourself to others as the person you want to be, (rather than who you really are, defects and all).

In my experience, as much as we may want to help someone else, it's impossible to make or even help another human beIng to change. This  is often true even when they express a desire to change.

You wrote that you don't want to scare hIm, and that you want to help hIm, but could it be that he's usIng the Internet as a way to avoId change? He may be gettIng all of his needs met already. The questIon is: Are you gettIng what you need from this relationship wIth him? Would It be better for you if you found another companIon?

Either way, I wish you the best.

See psychcentral.com/disorders/avoidant-personality-disorder-symptoms/

In case anyone is curious, we had the call yesterday. He started by saying it would be our last contact because he can’t bear so much drama. He showed many signs of panic. It was very painful for me to realize I can cause him so much distress. Despite that, he said I have helped him, and he hopes someday he can have a healthy relationship with someone. It was a relief to know that I didn’t discourage him to pursue happiness.

The effect this call had on me was devastating, though. I feel quite pathetic, and just want to withdraw, so I apologize in advance if I don’t reply comments that might be given by you. I thank you all for the advice.

Hi, Brazilian do you know if he is seeking help on this condition this and who diagnosed with as such?

Johnn,

He is not getting help. His own condition prevents him to search for that.

My psychiatrist was the one who first enlightened me about his condition. I then studied the matter and agreed with his conclusion. I presented it to the guy and he also could relate.

There are many online tests, and he falls in the category. None of us has doubt about it.

what you can do showing support and encourage him to research about avoidant personality disorder if it sounds like anything he might have or experienced. Telling that you truly care about him and most importantly his well being and that you will be there for him no matter what happens.