How to deal with weird thoughts during Peri?

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Hi Ladies,   I hope that everyone is good, or as good as we can be right now. smile   I wanted to ask this and see if this happens to anyone and if so how you find to deal with it.   The past few days (this is something new) I feel like my mind is playing tricks on me (this is the best way I can think to describe it)  I keep thinking that my husband is doing something wrong like cheating on me or doing something illegal which I def know is not the case but my head is messing with me and then of coarse this sets off my anxiety, I worry about it, I fester on it and then I cry, or don't feel well etc.  My husband has been wonderful to me over the past year since I started this whole peri rollercoaster ride and I don't want to talk to him about in the fear out everything that he has listen to this may set him off.   Any ideas?  Thanks Ladies....  Oh how I cant wait until all this over and I get me back.  

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    HIya amy

    Your not on your own, bless you, and I mean that, our minds seem to play these stupid tricks on us, and it’s horrid, most say that they think they have going to die, or get some bad illness, unfortunately it’s this crap menopause playing with our minds... mine to, Iv been there and throught these bad things, I’m over 4yrs now since this crap started, my last period was March this year, and hoping to make it to next April then hopefully it will be over with ( I can only hope lol ) ..

    So try not to worry, and take your mind away from this, easy said then done I know, but there will be a end to all of this one day, that you can be sure of, we’ve just got to ride this thing called menopause out.. keep talking to us on here, as we will try to help each other through this, we are all here to listen.. big hug 🤗xx

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      Thanks so much. Im so glad i found everyone here. I too cant wait for all this to be over. I have been talking to my mom and she says that i need to start putting myself and do what i need to help me get through a bad time. Im not a selfish person and always put others before myself but she has a point. Im no good to help anyone if im a mess. Hope that makes sense. Hugs 😍

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    I get the anxiety of feeling something is physically wrong with me. It happens when I get ready to go out, even THINK about going out, even eating anything ( I also have Hashimotos, which I think was triggered by the peri). I don't have panic attacks but I do have a feeling of impending doom, chest tightens, start breathing faster for a bit, get jittery, nervous, anxious, feel hot then feel cold.....and the list goes on. I just so want to be normal again and if i ever get there I will NEVER take it for granted again. Damn these hormones

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    Amy...this has been my #1 worry. All of a sudden my husband is doing everything bad under the sun. We've been married almost 30 years and all of a sudden I'm doubting everything he does and says. He has to reassure me daily that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me and our family. I don't know how he puts up with me. When I read your post I thought I was reading an old post of mine. Isn't this nuts??? I just want to run away sometimes because I'm so fed up with feeling this way. I'm afraid to mention it to anybody because they would think I am mentally unstable and put me away. But I am so paranoid lately. Ugh!!!!

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      Wow. We do sound alike. I have so many times felt like running away. I just hate that i really cant handle certain things anymore. My husband gets a stomache bug and my anexity increases i feel sick and cry. I cant do anything for him and i feel like a bad person. I just have to start helping myself forst before i can help him and know that im not bring selfish. I hope that makes sense. I cannot wait until all this is over. Hugs.
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    Amy

    I have had crazy thoughts and like you consumed my life for the past 7 years off and on.. for me was about everything, the safety of my children, questioning my marriage, in the top of all the health anxiety..I went from being this happy , feeling so good about my self to this sad person that gets scared with every little pain. ..

    I stopped talking to my husband about all this because he always says i want ny wife back.☺ For me i notice if i have any sugars and coffee it gets worst..it will get better.

    Feel better

    xoxo

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