How to explain EVERYTHING to my doctor ?

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Hi everyone. Hope you're doing well or getting the help you need smile .

My name is Kala and I'm a 21 year old female very worried about my health. I basically lost my period a year and 2 months ago. I have a bad relationship with food, body image and exercise since I was 10 and only asked for help when I was 18. I was never underweight so I thought my condition wasn't that bad  and never finished the treatment or therapy I was put on. Moreover, before the age of 10 something who wouldn't wish to a child happened to me and made me be who I am today. I do isolate myself, avoid interacting with people or social situations because of the anxiety they bring me later on. I'm constantly anxious and having racing thoughts, I cry because of no reason and get mad at little things. How do I put this in order and explain myself so I don't sound like it's just a story I'm making up, because this is how it really feels everytime I think about it. Sorry if this is not well put in words, it's just that I'm no longer able to explain what goes in my head. 

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    I don't know if it would work for you, but everytime that I've had to change mental health advisors I have written a letter - it doesn't have to be addressed to anyone specific - and documented when I first began having problems, what I've faced over the years and my current condition and state of mind.

    These letters have been anywhere from two to seventy pages. My doctors and other members of my mental health team have always been delighted to have the basics written out. It saves a lot of time and gets to the point without going through four or five sessions first.

    Just a suggestion - works for me: and no one is going to think that you're making things up or anything like that.

    Good luck - I really hope that you will get the help that you need.

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    Hi kala

    You have expressed yourself perfectly in your posting. If you relay to your doctor the same way he or she will understand and I'm certain they wouldn't think your making it up.

    You do need to get the treatment to start making you feel whole again. It sounds like you have depression or post traumatic stress and it's essential

    You tell your doctor exactly what you have posted here. I understood and so will your doctor.

    Please don't delay...

    Hugs and blessings to you xx

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      Thanks so much for your concern. I did call today to get an appointment because honestly it's either doing something about it or be gone. I feel so empty and like there's nothing left but a body. Thank you again xx
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      So relieved you have got an appointment! Once you get the right treatment you will start feeling whole again. Your life will improve and you will be smiling again in no time at all!!

      Keep me posted

      Thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recovery xxxx

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    I completly understand. I am ADD so when I started getting sent from specialist to specialist for my most recent problem I couldn't keep track of who knew what or would forget important details.

    So I started jotting down notes on symptoms. For example, I might write dizziness and then later expand on it with the type of dizziness in different situations. Then later I wrote down the time it started like December 2014, started as isolated incidents became daily by second week of January.

    In any case, my point is over the course of 3 or 4 days, I would write down the symptoms and various details either as they occurred to me or when I was having them.

    Once I was sure that I had listed out all relevant and perhaps some irrelevant information, I organized it in a list and took it with me to the doctor and had it in front of me while we consulted. This way if something I said gave the doctor cause to ask a lot of questions, I could then look back at my list and see what the next thing I wanted to discuss was.

    Every appointment I did this for was much more productive and the doctors appreciated the detail.

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    What i think you are dealing with is PTSD. Being violated as a child does damage on so many levels but but but you can reclaim yourself now. There is a little girl inside you..emotinally who is still hurting away. Food is used as control because just maybe its all you could control but that never ends well of left untreated. Its not your fault, thats why laws are in place your brain development was in no way able to comprehend correctly what was occurring and withiut a doubt traumatized you. You need a specialized counselor who deals with have a lot of emotions to sort out and hopefully along the way you will get you need and must love yourself, and every part of you. Ptsd is scientifically prooven to alter the brain. Very few people left on this earth place a stigma on it anymore but you do have so much to learn and i hope it works out well for you.dont spend therest of life living in a past occurance you deserve better, you deserve respect and you deserve love and you deserve a happy life. You have explained it very well by the way.
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