How to get help?
Posted , 3 users are following.
My anxiety issues started over a year ago. At first i had chest pains that i didn't think much of. Went to the doctors. Everything came back fine so didn't worry too much about it. Two weeks after they got so bad I didn't sleep for 5 days and got so worked up by it I went into A&E thinking I was having a heart attack. For about 6 months I was constantly going to the doctors/A&E thinking there was something seriously physically wrong with me. Every time i got met with frustrated doctors who could clearly see it was down to anxiety. One even insisted I was taking drugs! The problem was whilst it was clear to them, it was not clear to me. Mentally I did not feel stressed or anxious about anything apart from wanting to know what was wrong. No advice was given or help provided.
Then I broke. Woke up in the middle of the night gasping for breath, chest feeling like it was being crushed and vision was going black. I walked down stairs and collapsed in the hallway not able to move or talk. I stayed there for hours not moving. I stopped going to work without informing them and turned my phone off for 3 weeks.
I went to the doctors again but this time asking for help with my mental state not physical as I finally felt like I accepted it. Again though, no help or advice. After 4 visits and only being asked to fill out a questionnaire asking how likely I was to kill myself nothing came of it so I gave up.
I have spent the last 6 months just trying to put up with it but it just gets harder and harder. I fear that I will lose the job I have now, lose my girlfriend and friends. I am just so exhausted, mentally and physically. Don’t sleep more than 3 hours a night and every day is such a struggle.
I need help but don't have a clue how to go about it. I tried asking two GP's about it but they just kept telling me to come back in a month’s time if it didn't get better and of course it never did
0 likes, 8 replies
cia42277 Mantis
Posted
Can you pinpoint the trigger that started this a year ago? Let's find a starting point. Looking forward to hearing from you. We CAN help. Everone in this forum knows exactly what you are talking about. We are all in the same boat...dealing with anxiety.
Mantis cia42277
Posted
The weird thing is it all started when I was relaxing on a beach in Mexico. not a care in the world. I haven't been able to make any sense of it. All the things I would relate to stress and anxiety don't seem to apply. That's the most frustrating thing about it.
Purpledobermann Mantis
Posted
How old are you? Have you been losing weight? Any recent change in diet habits? Have you been taking any medication, supplements or recreational drugs in the weeks preceding the episode? (No need to answer here just explore for yourself). Have you had blood tests (FBC and trace minerals, thyroid and liver function etc), ecg and full cardio check-up including echo doppler and stress test? Do you have asthma/done a chest x ray? How much coffee/soft drinks or energy drinks do you consume? Any alcohol? Do you have sleep apnea (stop breathing during sleep or struggle to breathe or snore excessively) ? (this can be confirmed by anyone who could stay by you at night while you sleep). Now, once all that is covered by the doctors who see you, still your lack of sleep seals the deal sending your condition into a spiral. You CAN't start feeling better (if indeed it is anxiety) until you have rested and regrouped. You need melatonin produced during sleep to repair your frail nerves. You can (provided your liver is ok which your FBC would have confirmed) take b-complex vitamins to help repair your nervous system while you are exhausted and unable to do so by sleeping well. You need to be referred to a psychiatrist to assist getting you back to sleep to help in your recovery and explore the need for anti-anxiety therapy be it in the form of medication (likely because it sounds like a chemical imbalance rather than a psychological deal in your case) or psychotherapy or both. Something is up and just because you don't have suicidal tendencies does not mean they can write off your suffering. You need to demand to be thoroughly checked out. I hope you get to the bottom of it and feel better fast!
Purpledobermann
Posted
Mantis Purpledobermann
Posted
Thank you for your response. I put myself through loads of tests. All came back fine but it never put my mind at ease. Each test just seemed to make me worse, getting more panicky and stressed about it. Took a while to accept I am 100% physical healthy and defiantly feel more in control for it. I am 27 years old, don't take drugs, illegal or prescription. Gave up drinking this year as the day after would undo any progress I had made.
The sleep is a BIG issue though. It just feels like its an uncontrollable cycle of not sleeping because of the anxiety and feeling anxious due to being sleep deprived. I always manage to get to sleep early but wake up with the worst panic attacks after just a couple of hours. I will wake up to a sudden hard thump in my chest followed by extreme numbness in my limbs, racing heart, difficulty breathing, all whilst confused and disorientated from being violently woken up from a deep sleep
cia42277 Mantis
Posted
You said you went to doctors for 6 months, so I'm assuming you have been pretty well looked over. If it is anxiety, the first thing to do is get on an anti anxiety drug. I am not a great fan of drugs and avoid them whenever possible, but with anxiety they are needed, at least initially, until you can think clearly again and make decisions that will help yourself.
Actually, I am not going to go much further until you get help calming down. (that is the first thing I did, and saw enough difference in a few days to convince me I was not going to die, go insane or hate myself forever) remember that most of what is going on isn't real. It's your mind and caused by anxiety.I have experienced much of what you reported and am glad to say I am MUCH better.
While you are getting this help, you need to check your diet making sure you are not eating and drinking things that make it worse, and believe me, that is possible. If I have something on the no no list, I go through the roof in minutes. Many people in this forum report a positive reaction to right eating. Do what I did, (my doctor put me onto this) google FOODS THAT HELP ANXIETY, and FOODS THAT MAKE ANXIETY WORSE. The third thing is a good anxiety counselor. Yes, there are counselors that understand anxiety, and can help, even to tell you if is indeed anxiety or not. Many doctors, including one of mine don't get how awful this can be or flat out don't believe you and even laugh at you when you try to tell themwhat's going on. Fortunately, my other doctor is the one that spotted the problem as anxiety, and got me on a medication same day. I saw a tiny difference within a day or so, and have been progressing slowly but steadily since then. If you do these three things, anti anxiety drug, total diet change, anxiety counseling with a counselor who verifies it is anxiety, you should be very aware you are improving and on the right path. One, two, three things to do Don't be overwhelmed, do them one at a time.
I do want to say that my counselor happens to be a social services counselor connected to the clinic I go to. It's not whether the person who helps you is a psychiatrist, psychologist, counselor, or whatever. The important thing is that they are an anxiety therapist. Like I said, they are qualified to tell you it is not anxiety or that it is, and they can help. They can tell you this very quickly...not taking months to do so.
Have faith, have hope. You may get many answers here, some of them not agreeing. We only put our thoughts from our own experience out there and it is up to you to choose what feels right for you. No matter how messed up we get, if we pay attention, we will know what's best for ourselves. When my doctor told me what it was, even with no personal previous experience with anxiety, I KNEW he was right. I am not one of those people who believes what everybody says just because of their credentials. I trust intuition. I just "fired" my primary doctor because her error brought the anxiety on with a BIG drug mistake. As I said, my other doctor (thank god) caught it.
I have quite gone on long enough.
Keep in touch. Oh, I just remembered, I once knew a priest who was an anxiety therapist, so really look around, google, etc. You may find your person in an unexpected place. Keep in touch. Some days we just need to know someone cares. I do...we do, Mantis
Mantis cia42277
Posted
Thanks for that Cia. The worst thing is that for something that is so common, no one seems to understand or validate it enough to think I even need help to get over it.
I have tried explaining it to my girlfriend so she could make sense to why I have been so withdrawn recently but I have had to sort of hide it from her as I can see the frustration. It’s not her fault and she does try to help. She even encouraged me to leave my job and supported me financially until I pulled myself together enough to get another.
'I was not going to die, go insane or hate myself forever' That was the realization I got about 6 months ago and it was such a relief to not just think it, but truly believe it. I have sort of been in limbo since though. The clinic I go to only has one GP who is not very pro-active in suggesting ways to help. He just thinks I’m turning up for more tests that I do not need, but I am way past that now. I have tried changing clinics but having a tough time getting in somewhere else
cia42277 Mantis
Posted
The fact is, NO ONE, including girlfriends and doctors can understand unless they've been there. To many, it sounds too bizaar, to others, laughable. You need to find a councelor or therapist who specializes in anxiety. Try google, phone book, ministers, priests, clinics, etc, to find that person!!!After seeing them and having them verify the problem, THEY can talk to your girlfriend and your doctor for you. They will be your advocate. Find them.
As to sleep, my sister, after a horrible divorce, went into big time anxiety. She recorded some of her favorite "soft" music and songs, put them on a loop; and they play softly all night by her bed. Now instead of waking up in a major depression/anxious state, she wakes to familiar, loved sounds. She says this is working miracles!!! Give it a try. I'm proud of you for forging forward. Keep at it. You have a cheering section here.