How to handle suicidal feelings?
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I've been experiencing suicidal feelings for the past 3 or 4 weeks. I've felt that everything is just too much ... and I just can't cope. I felt this way about 3 years ago, but managed to recover. But these feelings keep coming back - and, at times, overwhelm me. When this happens I feel like today is the day. Somehow, I get over it. I'm not sure how. I'm afraid that - one day - I will simply go ahead and do it. You see, on occasion I don't feel in control of myself - as if I'm on auto-pilot. When that happens, I just do whatever it is I'm doing. If this occurs when I'm feeling suicidal, I'm pretty sure I'll kill myself.
But I'm not writing this post specifically about me.
I'd like to know if anyone has any suggestions or ideas about how to deal with the thoughts and feelings that a person has when feeling seriously suicidal.
Okay - if the person is going to do it, it happens. But for many, suicide doesn't really feel like something they 'want' to do. And, if somehow they could avoid it, they would. But still such people kill themselves - as, at the last moment, they've gone ahead with it rather than stopped themselves.
I'm no expert on this. Not at all. So I may be talking rubbish. My apologies.
But if anyone has ideas or suggestions that might help someone (me included) to overcome last-minute suicidal feelings, please comment.
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froggy2 simon1975mar
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2. The too much coping thing happens a lot. I'm doing program design while setting up flat that i've just moved into while administering an 18,000 book library with two people, while while while..
I'm not good with writing stuff down or explaining or giving direction and this makes me lose control. Does this sound similar?
3. Lessons learnt. Number instructions. it helps others refer to something you said instead which you can lookup instead of it sounding like a "my memory is better that yours attack" also helps keeps them short which i'm bad at.
4. Group / number stuff to do and post it on ONE piece of paper to tick off.
5. NEVER make everything as important as the most important thing on the list. For some reason that is a natural thing to do.
6. Don't connect something bad like the lost keys to karma / God / life punishment. Else you are going to chain yourself up to - ah well I can't fight this as its just someone elses will. Nope - Sh*te happens like a bump in the road and then you continue over it. Life was meant to be a work.
HTH
jemimah88932 simon1975mar
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susan5353 simon1975mar
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elizabeth20203 susan5353
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it's so sad. We will never get over what happened, we live with it every day and the stigma attached to it. I hope anybody in this much mental pain to seek help. I have struggled with mobility for years also as well as depression and anxiety, so understand how life can be very difficult.
Elizabeth.
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hypercat simon1975mar
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A doctor once asked me if I had a plan. I said I don't make plans in advance and it is usually one thing which happens or is said and it pushes me past the point of wanting to live and I can make a plan for an hour or so's time.
What stops me? Firstly having the means (ie drugs) I know realistically I am not going to jump off a high building or a cliff or try to drown myself etc.
Secondly I don't keep sharp knives in my home deliberately as this is too much temptation.
Lastly and most importantly I 'put it off'. I decide every day that this isn't the day I am going to do it. This allows me to relax that day and not to think about it. This helps a lot. I also know too that the feelings will pass as they have in the past and I will be ok until the next crisis.
One thing I will never do is call emergency services or go to a hospital or doctor if I am in crisis - I have learnt from experience this only makes things worse and I still am not given any treatment.
I hope this has helped a bit. Take care x
lostsoul0604 simon1975mar
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loxie simon1975mar
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simon1975mar
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Thanks everyone for your comments. As for me, I do agree with the advice - I need to speak to someone. I've no one close to me, so it'll have to be professional help. But I just find it so darn hard to talk to people 'in authority'.
gnnir simon1975mar
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I had my first ever suicidal thoughts in the midst of an HIV scare in July 2013. The thoughts took me to the A&E department of the local hospital, and I have been there several times since.
The scare shattered my self-confidence and heralded other negative life-events that reinforced my insecurity and a created a belief that I have a very poor coping mechanism.
At no point have I wanted to die. I have just wanted to rid myself of these thoughts and the panic / despair that goes with them, and to get better.
Even today, while I don't feel particularly depressed, I have had these suicidal thoughts ebbing and flowing. I had them continually while I had a brisk 90 minute walk in what should have felt like the idyllic surroundings of the local countryside. The anxiety that accompanies the thoughts flows through my body.
I can relate to your feeling that, at times, you don't feel in control of your own mind and it's as if you are on auto-pilot. That is what scares me, too. How can one relax?
I just hate the feeling that my first ever suicidal thought seems to have stuck and is constantly being repeated in my head. It just seems that, once there, it's impossible to get rid of it / them.