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How to help my partner to stop drinking . It is killing our relationship!

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Cancy2021
Cancy2021

My partner has not been working since first lock-down, and every night I come from work i find out he's been drinking. On top of this, he would have a bottle of wine out ready for dinner. Another bottle is hidden in the boiler cupboard.

I met him 7 years ago and we have a wonderful daughter together. He has always been drinking but now not only it's excessive , he has become very argumentative. He has become an narcissist, and a bully. He will instigate an argument the moment I walk in through the door, as he knows far well, it will upset me and I will go upstairs in the bedroom. This enables him to have a house to himself and drink to oblivion until he has nothing left to drink.

If I decide to stay downstairs so I do not enable him, he takes a bottle and goes ad drinks in the bedroom.

I have walked out of the relationship many time so he can change. I can't do this any more! I am exhausted by the drama this is causing me, the endless arguments which our daughter is now witnessing and finally, I am falling out of love from all the nasty things he says to upset me.

When I approached his parents, they recommended that i go gentle on him as he needs all the love he can get, but what about me and our child? Am I being unreasonable? Then his dad took him home with him for a few years, made decisions how to go about it and I was not involved in any of the decisions.

I want to help him and save our family. Any tips or recommendations? Many thanks in advance.

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  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 Cancy2021

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    Hello Cancy. He has no intention of stopping the drinking and he is not listening to you or anybody else. I was drinking heavily and my wife nearly walked out on me 8 years ago. i stopped 31st dec 2012 exactly. 8 years but i wanted to! I cannot see what more you can do since you already walked out many times. My twins were 16 months old and i was killing myself but wanted to see them grow up! You need a miracle. Best regards Robin

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