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Hi! I am 18 years old and have suffered from HS since I was anout 10 years old. I only have boils in the groin and buttox area. I never talked to anyone about it and just suffered in the quiet, always wondering what was wrong with me and being too embarresed to talk about it. About six weeks ago I met this guy who is really amazing and since I really want to have sex with him I forced myself to seek help. I googled my symptoms and found hs which I am sure I have, but it's not completly confirmed by a doctor yet. Now to my question; How do I talk to my boyfriend about this? He has been wanting to have sex with me for a while and I've said I wasn't ready. He is a really amazing guy and I am sure he will understand and won't look at me differently, it's just so embarresing to bring up, but it would be more embarressing for him to find out himself by seeing it. When I think about what I'm gonna say I just feel like it's gonna sound so gross... Please help me!
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tiffany1234 matildaw
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hypercat matildaw
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You need to get a proper HS diagosis so you need to ask your doctor for a referral to a dermatologist.  If any of your boils become infected you need to see the doctor for ab's.  If you do have HS you need to be vigilant coz untreated infections can cause damage to the lower levels of your skin. This can lead to more problems and you can get sinus tracts forming under your skin and infection can travel down it to other areas. Â
Bev x
phishyesther matildaw
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Your right it does look/smell/feel gross, so a heads up is the best way to de-sensitize. With my boyfriend I sat him down and said I was going to show him some pictures of the very worst this condition could be to express to him my fear. I always emphasis that hygiene is not the reason we have this, however he sometimes feels better being intimate after a good shower for good measure and peace of mind, which I don't mind doing for him. It seems that the pictures of lesions worse than my own raises true concern he has for my well-being, and when he see's mine he is relived and more a part of healing in helping me track which may be getting worse or better. His involvement has meant everything to me and has helped our relationship to grow to a point where HS is an open topic of conversation, a big part of how I feel day to day, and a huge factor in our honesty and trust in eachother.
So go for it! and I wish you all the best that the outcome is what you are desiring!
much love
aburdette211 matildaw
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Ps. I'm 37 now, had gastric bypass at 26 and when I lost the weight I stopped breaking out.
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