How to talk to partner about std

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How do I talk to a partner that I think got an std from but at the same time I’m not sure cause I’ve always used condoms and I hooked up with her a few times and she insisted at the time to take the condom off and my dumbass listened. Well a few months back I was seeing someone and we also had unprotected sex but I never showed any symptoms and I went to my uncle who’s a doctor to check me and was told that this takes a couple of weeks to sometimes even months until you show symptoms. Point being I care for her and I know she’s had her history of flings too and I trusted her enough to not ask because I began to care for her and took it serious. I feel like it’s both our fault for not taking it serious I just want to address the situation. I don’t want this to ruin what we have going on and just get treated and try to move on. what do you guys think?

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  • Posted

    So wait, did you get an STD or you think you may have? Regardless, you should be upfront about your concerns and if she can't handle it, she is not right for you.

  • Posted

    Hi Well AM time to be straight with her, tell her what you have a take her to see your uncle I'm to sure he will honor you with do a free test for her to say ya or na .

    You have to do it or your a card, ( a card is not a nice guy)

  • Posted

    What was the STD? Are you positive that you got it from her? 

    If you can confirm it was her - I would talk to her in person, in private of course. Tell her that you tested positive for the STD and are pretty confident that it came from her. That you were "clean" before you had your fun... Tell her that you do not want it to ruin what you have going on and want to keep the relationship. But, you care about her and want her to get treated before it turns into something worse (or she cant have kids or whatever) and that you are also going to get treated. 

    Whatever happens, you gotta let her know as she many not know she is a carrier. 

    • Posted

      The only problem there is all you can do Steven is ask her to get tested, as there are a couple of STD's that you can get, you don't know you have it and they go and hide in deep tissue and pop out when the they feel like it.

      So Steven what your saying he could end up with egg on his face, as he could have something and she does not, get there picture,

      When we answer we need to tread vary carefully.

    • Posted

      your second point is true. but, i was assuming that he can really confirm that it is her. yes, good advice to also tell her to get tested... assuming that she will even test positive.

      if it was up to me, this is how i would handle it. but if i was ever going to have that conversation, i would need to be 110% sure that she was the person who gave it to me. 

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      Regardless, you need to tell your sexual partners if you are infected with an STD. I’m not sure where you’re from, but here there is no obligation to tell your partner if you have a STD but laws vary everywhere.That being said, it is typically illegal, civilly and criminally, to knowingly or recklessly transmit an STD.

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