HSV-2... I cant help but think I'll never find someone again and my dating life is over. Depressed

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I was recently diagnosed with HSV-2 and am currently seeing someone. I told her immediately so that she could get tested. We don't know the results yet but I feel that either way it will be bad news. If she tests positive I will be devastated that I unknowingly transmitted this to her. If she tests negative, I can't see her wanting to stay with me.. This is going to be a never ending circle of rejection. 

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  • Posted

    They having dating sites for ppl with herpes now a days I'm sure you will meet someone and don't count her out just yet you never know 

  • Posted

    The guy who gave it knowingly to me dumped me and will not even talk to me if they care about you like you care for them you can overcome this together. Good luck be strong
    • Posted

      That is terrible. I hope you met someone new and your happy now
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      I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm getting more educated on the risks and how to prevent transmission if I did not yet pass it to her. We do care about each other but she's nervous about her health and potential children. I know I need to say the right things when I try and

      convince her to stay with me but I'm just not exactly sure what to say.

       Any advice from someone who's gone through it? 

    • Posted

      You guys can still have kids. I know a few ppl with herpes a female with it and her husband of 14  years doesn't have it they have a child vaginal birth child is fine and 2 males with it one girlfriend also has it and one girlfriend doesn't and they are about to have a baby. Speak to your dr about surpressive mess so you can not spread it to her use condoms and just be careful. You have been honest with her I think she will respect that and hopefully will want to stay with you. She loved/liked you before this I can't see this changing that. 

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      No problem! Best of luck to you guys. You can tell her about your new friend Jess that has friends that never infected there partners of decades. 
  • Posted

    Why are you assuming you will have transmitted it to her? Don't you think that if she positive you caught it off her?  Anyway, it is such a common condition that anyone could infect anyone.  

    ?Rejection is assumed by the newly diagnosed (and I wasted two years assuming I would be rejected, so I didn't try).

    ?However, a recent survey of members of the Herpes Viruses Association found that only 17% of 'disclosures' resulted in rejection.  So more than four out of five women will be fine with it.  In fact, men have told me (on our helpline) that the woman they talk about it with respect them, and consider them more caring, courteous and considerate!  A good thing!

     

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