Hsv2 suicidal

Have you had any symptoms? Was your ex-girlfriend on suppressive medication?

I contracted HSV2 almost 9 years ago from someone whom I trusted and loved very much, but they didn’t care enough about me to tell me they had it. I’ll be honest, it’s really hit or miss when it comes to dating. Some people are understanding and some run for the hills. It’s just the sad reality of the virus. I can say that I am now happily engaged and my fiancé is fully aware and we just are careful and use protection. Just make sure that you tell people whom you trust, it is best to do so before you sleep with them. That way you give the choice. It makes people not trust you when you haven’t told them. If your test comes back positive, it will be hard to digest, but it’s not life threatening and people make way too big of a deal than it really is. The symptoms are minimal. AND it’s more common than you think it is. It is not worth losing your life over. 

I just contracted it by a person who I was dating. His true colors came out when he went in the missing the same time I started experiencing my 1st symptoms. You must be honest. When I 1st found out I wanted to die. Yet now and still experiencing pain, know that in life things happen and they are opportunities for growth. Tell her and remember your life is precious!! Start reading books on mindfulness if not already. You will grow from this but you must not keep it from her, knowingly putting her at risk is wrong and you know that. It is the most excruciating pain. 

Hi denzel79045

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Herpes is not the end of the world. i thought that too when i was diagnosed. I generally had the thought that no one would ever love me and i would be along forever but its not the case and im now in a 3 year long relationship and my boyfriend doesn't have it. If you havent been diagnosed with it then you may not have it. Have you had an outbreak? don't worry yourself about something that may not be the case! keep protected and if it comes back that you do have hsv2 then tell her. if she can't accept it then shes not the person for you. 

Herpes is not the end of the world but please be very fair to the person you’re dating. You already did not tell her and that can’t be reversed but you should get tested in a timely manner by waiting until the 12-16 week post exposure. Also, if you’re positive, which I pray you won’t be,  gave her the opportunity to test 12-16 weeks after possible exposure.

I’m saying this because I made the decision to stay with my Ex , who was tested positive for both. I was great to her and she put my at risk, moved on with someone else and I was miserable and scared for 5 months of my life until I was tested negative. I wouldn’t date anyone or put them through that uncomfortable situation during the waiting period but I hate to sound selfish here.

I was fortunate to walk away negative and saw a positive outlook from the breakup.

Just be fair and Respect her decision. 

All the best.