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My husband is 51 years old, up until recently we have not had any problems with our sex life. My husband is able to get an erection, a very hard, but after bumping and grinding for awhile he says his penis goes numb so unable to ejaculate, unfortunately for several hours afterwards will have pain and pressure, intense case of "blue balls". He can ejaculate through masterbation with out any problems. He is upset, feeling he is not the man use to be, worried that he is not pleasing me in the sexual department, which could not be further from the truth and says its because getting old. I think it maybe because subconsciously he is worried about age being the cause, that the loss of sensation could happen again and a tremendous amount of unnecessary pressure of himself. I also think after the first time the loss of sensation in the middle of intercourse happened he hasn't been able to move past it. I have tried to address what i think maybe contributing factor subconsciously, he insists he is not thinking or worried about it but of course we are not aware of our. subconscious most of the time. My husband also will have plans for sexual encounter to be a certain way, very elaborate, gets idea and does not always go according to plans, will spend all day totally focused on encounter planned for example later that night. I have no complaints about our sex life, sex doesn't always needs to be a big event, i have no problem with a quickie from time to time, especially a spontaneous quickie. When we are making love and he looses sensation in the middle of intercourse, he says lets try again later, then the cycle of thinking about it continues. Sorry if I have confused anyone reading this, or cbteaduxted myself in anyway. Am I missing something, is there something I can do to help my husband get over this hump. I think it's all pressure he is putting on himself to be the same perfect lover, vetu rarely is sex spontaneous, like i mentioned it os almost always a big planned production. There is plenty of foreplay and lubrication during sex. Just hoping for some advice. I am sorry this is so long i am a babbler I guess, i am seeking advice because my husband think its age related, he hit 50 plus suddenly was old according to him. Thanks so much for any insight advice and reading my long post.
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