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I'm a newlywed, me and the fella have been together for nearly 10 years before we took the plunge last month.
However, Shiny New Hubby (hereafter SNH) has been suffering from severe panic and anxiety disorder for quite some time, and this was heightened in the lead up to the wedding. He finally started seeing a counsellor about 6 months ago, but I'm not sure it's helping. He was prescribed medication (escitalopram?) by his doctor, who said that they thought he might also be depressed, before the wedding, but didn't take it. He was advised to try a new hobby (he has none) or exercise before the wedding, but he didn't take that up either. The wedding went by, he seemed fine on the day, and in the days immediately after, but since we returned to work, and he's been subjected to the dreaded commute everyday (which is admittedly a slog) he has been in a very dark place.
As I said, he's been like this for a very long time, and his relationship with his friends has suffered. His friends, however, have not been very sympathetic, one of whom (let's call him F1) often makes light fun of his OCD, which has led him to almost shut them out (his sense of humour is at an all time low). But he gets equally upset when they don't invite him along to things, or include him in anything.
He has now finally, in the last few days, started taking the medication he was prescribed, and the side effects are already quite bad. We went to the cinema last night, and halfway through the film he got a panic attack, convinced that he was going to throw up. It took all my persuasion to get him to continue with the medication this morning when he got worked up again about having to go to a meeting. He's read the side effects and is convinced that he either has, or is going to get every single one of them.
This Friday, as part of Hallowe'en, his friends have actually invited him along to something, which I am strongly encouraging that he go along to. However, I am very worried that he is going to get himself into a state, and have no one to turn to while he's like that. My question is, can I have a chat with one of his friends (let's say F2 - who is also a good friend of mine, in fact, he introduced us) to give him a reasonable idea of what SNH is going through (without disclosing all the details) in the hope that he might be a little more understanding, and perhaps be able to help SNH if he does start to panic, or is that a massive breach of trust? I'm worried that his friends might give up on him entirely if they don't at least start to understand why he's acting the way he is.
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