husband sectioned under mental health act

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I'm newly married (a year) just before we married my husband began to display signs of depression/anxiety but refused to acknowledge or seek help. Our relationship deteriorated, I too became depressed but sought help and am being managed by medication with supprt of my GP. My husband walked out 3 months ago, despite councelling he continued to spiral, intervention from the crisis team placed him at a day hospital, he has since been sectioned. Now agreeing to treatment, but as yet there are no real signs of progress.

I visit him regularly and attend ward rounds but am finding it all very difficult. 

We have discussed us and the future but have no clear idea what it will bring or even if we can/want to be together.

My two daughters who still live at home with me do not want him to return to our home to live.

I'm in such a difficult situation and don't know waht to do

 

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  • Posted

    How hold are your children? .is he there biological father?.and why do they not want him to return
    • Posted

      Children are young adults .... 21 & 25 and my husband is not thier biological father.

      they dont want him to return because over the last 9 months or so he has focused his attention on them, always wanting to be with them and them keeping him company. they also found his suicidal tendencies a cause for concern and do not want the responsibility of being with him if i'm at work.

    • Posted

      Thats a tough call. I understand the sence of them not wanting to be hm with him if he is suicidal. ...that is way to much for any of you to handle...I would say if he really and truly want to help himself then I would give him another chance and have a family metting. However if not you cant make him change...my step father was them same way and got help better never really wanted it
    • Posted

      I can understand your children feeling the way they do, it is a large responsibility having someone with suicidal thoughts around you

      Your husband may have clung to the children fearing his own feelings, he maybe didn't

      understand the pressure he was putting

      them under.

      Please don't try to make any major decisions about your marriage at this time.

      Try and take things slowly, make sure you have. Time Out for yourself or you will find yourself becoming ill.

      Tell the children that you do understand their feelings and will take their feelings into account.

      NO NEED TO RUSH...... Big hugs xxx

    • Posted

      thank you, family meeting may be the way towards making some joint decisions.

      just need to persuade the girls its the right thing to do

       

    • Posted

      I think a family meeting is an excellent way forward. Big big hugs.

      Remember......... Time out for yourself... Lovely bubble bath... Maybe a take a way watching tv.... Xx

    • Posted

      Linda

      thank you, I take on board what you are saying, I can only manage one day at a time right now. but feel pressured to making big decisons about the future, my husband fluctuates between we are over/divorce and needing/wanting to come back because of the security home life offers.

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