Hysterectomy at 30

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Hi all, I just turned 30 last week and am having a full hysterectomy on 14 May. I have 3 boys aged 6, 4 and 2 all born premature the youngest at 28 weeks. I also lost a baby at 19 weeks. I have had 8 operations in the last 2 years due to cysts, abcess' blocked tubes the list is endless. I ruptured mu uterus having my last child and suffer constant infections since. I had terrible periods often required blood transfusions and medication to stop the bleeding.

I have been on the waiting list for 2 years for hysterectomy and now its here I feel rotten about the whole thing. All my boys were born emergency c section so I have a very small insight into what the op entails...im terrified. I cant sleep properly and very tearful and angry my tummy is churning and I feel just so anxious about the whole thing.

Im angry because I would have loved more children. Im sick of people telling me I should be grateful for the 3 I have, of course im grateful I love them more than anything in the world but if I had the choice I would have had more, I cant bear the thought of never having a new born baby again and feel so annoyed that its through no choice of my own this operation needs doing I know that.

I bleed terribly after surgery and need transfusions and so this worries me alot.

I worry about my husband and my boys as im so used to doing everything for them and dont take too well to being cared for .....im the mummy, lol. I know I will be out of action for a while and I love taking care of my family, cooking, cleaning and making sure everything is just so.

Has anyone else suffered these feelings and how long did it really take you to recover from your op?

Thanks so much. Xxx

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    Hello Joanne, I'm sorry you have had such a truly awful time and are having to go through this at such a young age. Its natural for you to feel the way you do. I am much older than you but I had a full hysterectomy when I was about 40 yrs of age. I can only say that within 6 weeks of the op I felt better than I had for years. It was frustrating not being able to do the things I wanted but I found that it just takes longer to get back to normal if you dont rest as you should. I cleaned the house top to bottom before I went in and stocked up the freezer and fridge. The anaesthetist and surgeon will know all about your bleeding problems and will give you excellent care. When you get there you will find there are other women going through the same operation and you will be able to chat if y ou want and that makes it less scary. You will be fine, pain relief is given afterwards and you will be surprised at how quickly you recover, you will be home before you know it. I can honestly say the improvement in my general health afterwards was a surprise to me and I had so much more energy. All the best, you will be fine.

    Bess

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    Hi Joanne 

    I am 36 and like you I have 3 beautiful children and never said never to having another! But just like you I am booked to have a total hysterectomy on Thursday. I am petrified, confused and feeling sick all the time. I can't sleep either so I sympathise with you x everyone keeps telling how different I will feel but it doesn't make it any easier for me 😢 you are not alone x

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    Hi

    I'm 38.

     I'm having a hysterectomy on May 12. 

    I have one son age 9.

    I've had gynae problems since my first period and currently have cysts, fibroids, endometriosis, lots of adhesions and a raised CA125.

    I'm worried too, but glad that something is being done.

    I'm happy to share contact details if it helps to have someone to chat to and compare notes.

    Xx

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    G'day from down under , Australia.   Dear Joanne, I am 38, and had my hysterectomy  in September last year. I have two boys 15 and 10 years old. I understand the frustration of not being able to have more children. I wish that I was healthier ,I would of had more kids too. But my health has been declining for quite some time. I had fibroids ans cysts removed a number of times. This time the cyst was too large so a hysterectomy was the only choice. They took my uterus , tubes and cervix. They left my overlies so I don't require HRT. They did the op through key whole surgery assisted by vaginal extraction. The surgery is pretty simple and basically minimal discomfort post op. I had a little discomfort afterwards , but considering the pain I was in beforehand post op was a breeze . For about six weeks there is no lifting, or bending.  Ex... Laundry washing , picking up the kids. Avoid twisting as that can pinch a little. .... Sine I have had my hysterectomy  I have been 100 percent , and I am so glad that I did it. .... As lucylou suggested , exchanging details is a good idea. You both are going through the same thing at the same time. I think it is always good to have someone to talk to. ..... Best of luck , god bless.
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    Hi Joanne

    I had a full hysterectomy on Monday last week. I have 19 year old twins but unlike you didn't want more, however I do feel for you. I had my staples taken out today and although sore I am managing to potter around. You will need a lot if help post op as you can't lift anything heavier than a kettle and bending is difficult. What's most important is to rest and let people help you as you will feel very tired. Stay in your nighclothes and get some cushions to help you get comfy.

    If you have any questions feel free to ask.

    Dawny x

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    Hi Joanne. So, your surgery is over? Just wondering how it went and how you're doing?
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