I am 47 and feel so bad tired , dry mouth , nausea anxiety scared

Hi Wilson,

I am so very sorry for your loss. This is a very difficult time for you and I understand what you are going through.

I lost my son, my only child, in a car accident almost 9 years ago. I was 46 at that time. For the first few years I pretty much stayed in the house with no energy and no desire to do anything. The depression lifted as I worked through the grief with the help of an amazing support group but the other symptoms continued over the years....fatigue, head pressure headaches, nausea, anxiety and more. I know that a lot of it was grief but looking back at it I'm sure that this horrible thing happened right at the time of my life that my body started with peri menopause. I was attributing a lot of how I was feeling to a prolonged grief but now see that, in all the unfairness in this world I was having to deal with these two major life changes at the same time.

You may be in peri menopause as well and compounded with your grief over the loss of your mother it's difficult to know what is causing your symptoms.

In my opinion, the best thing you can do is to be gentle on yourself, eat a healthy diet and go for walks when you can. It would be good to talk to your doctor so he/she can maybe so some blood tests to be sure you don't have another reason for why you are feeling like this...like maybe low iron or B12 levels.

I'm sorry you are feeling like this and send hugs to you?

I believe a lot of general doctors dont know how to deal with grief/anxiety/ depression and i have come across doctors like this they dont understand what its about and yes the first thing a lot of them do is write the px for antidepressants I was so lucky the doctor I had was so understanding but also I am going through the peri she sat and listened while i was sobbing my heart out and explained my symptoms to me with the depression and the peri yes she gave me antidepressants and beta blockers but she had me back every couple of weeks for about two months I was then referred to my cbt councillor who has also been brilliant she explains everything and the physical and mental symptoms as well as helping me to work through my anxiety.I know im very fortunate but about twenty odd years ago I went through losing my mum having a critically ill baby and looking after my father in law so I crashed My health visitor was brilliant she recognised I was ill and i saw councillors and had meds but i didnt feel i had the help back then as I do now. Ive been at that point where you dont want to get out of bed and just want to sleep all the time with no motivation at all. I promise you with the right help you will get through this although there is no time limit for grief you can get the help to support you through this and I keep saying it on here, it is a fantastic forum that will help support you because everyone on here will know exactly what you are going through please keep posting if you are up to it im sure in time you will find the support and comfort you need. its still early days with your mum,  my love it took me nearly three years for mine but I got through as you will x