I am a 60-year-old female just diagnosed with genital herpes.my partner of 17 months tested negativemy partner of 17 months tested negative how can this be possible?
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I don't understand how this could be possible because we have only been together with each other and no one else for the past 17 months. Now I had an outbreak and tested positive. I am 61 years old in June. Only three partners in the past 42 years. How could he have tested negative when we have sex on a regular basis. Oral and vaginal. Should He be tested again in another month or three months. He wants to break it off. I feel awful. And unwanted.
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cartercali dawn07330
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And if your current boyfriend doesn't have any visible sores then they can't do a swab test and a swab test is the most reliable diagnosis .
A blood test can take up to 6 months for the virus to show up in your blood stream ..
Then again It could've been one of your other partners & the virus has just been dominant in your body for so long ..
Don't feel bad sweetie ...
If he wants to break it off then let him go ..
He should definitely get tested again within the next 3 months and again in another 3 months .. He probably does have it he just hasn't shown any signs of it
When did you have your outbreak and how long did it last ?
dawn07330 cartercali
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FelizCastus dawn07330
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Your outbreak sounds like a first one. How were you diagnosed? If you haven't done so already, do the IgG (not IgM) antibody test asap. If you only caught it from him recently, you will still be negative for IgG due to test window. If positive, then you have had it for at least 3 months, but there's a chance you are negative for the antibodies, in which case you can prove that it came from him.
dawn07330 FelizCastus
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FelizCastus dawn07330
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I do not trust his so-called test, because he conveniently can't remember the details and allegedly threw the results away, but why would a person do that if they're negative? Surely, you'd want to keep the results as proof. Did he even test at all? I seriously wonder. He has sores, you also said. All red flags, imo.
The window to still test negative for IgG antibodies, assuming you never had herpes before, is small. Although people advise 3 months for conclusive test results, some people start having detectable IgG antibodies earlier, so I would do it within a couple of weeks of your outbreak. You still didn't say how you were diagnosed and by which means, or which type you have. Do you know?
dawn07330 FelizCastus
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If it isn't from him, then it is possible that you have carried herpes since before him and either failed to recognise previous mild outbreaks (with this one being much worse for some reason) or simply didn't have a first outbreak until now, which is possible but only in around 10% or so of cases.
Is it Type 1 or 2 that you have? Either way, I hope you get better soon, as it sounds like you had/are having a horrible outbreak! Also, your partner should retest at 3 months. Take care!
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