I am a worthless and stupid teenager

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I'm 54 years old. When i left school i coud barely read or write. I was abused by the men my sisters married. Everything i am now i achieved on my own. My first husband was an abusive liar. The only good thing he gave me were my children. My second husband was my joy. He took on me and for abused and broken children but i only had him for 15 years before he died. My world collapsed without him. Its been a painful struggle and i will never love like that again. But every time i have fallen i got back up. My mother gave me this life and i will not derespect her bydesroying it. You are not dumb. You haven't found what you are goid at. Its not always obious. When i was 16 i left school with nothing. Not even friends. My mother was losing her fight with early onset dementia. I was 14 when my ad died so i was left with this woman who barely knew who i was. But now i am a dispatcher for the ambulance service.

To your mum you are her world. To her you are good. What would your words to her be if things were the other way round? You are bright enough to know there is a problem. Most dont they wonder on until its to late. You are a 16 year old girl with a life ahead of her. Im 54 and mine is behind me.

You can do what you want and live. So you haven't got a mountine of grades but you know most of the happiest people in life don't. You are not dumb. You are you and you are unique because there is only one of you.

i think your just crying out for some1 to love you,your soo young,who cares wat people think as if it matters? its your 1 life just do what you want to do

Hi Sevgi30600 - has there been any diagnosis of autism? The difficulty learning can be related to that, and since it is more prevalent in boys it may have been overlooked. Meanwhile, is there a counsellor at school that perhaps you can talk to? 

Hi sevgi I was told at school I would amount to nothing. School isn't all it's cracked up to be. I'm 45, married and have worked most of my life. I never went to university. I don't have a degree. I worked outside of school and have gained more qualifications put together than my sisters. I know you have no siblings. Does it really matter how you achieve in life. Money isn't everything, your life is what you make it. I have had huge things go wrong and happen to me through no fault of my own. You're only 16. One thing I regret is I have no family of my own but through no fault of my own, even that I'm working on getting right. Be happy, that's the important thing. Good luck.x

Your not worthless sweetheart and don’t let anyone tell you that . Talk to your mum if you are able to if not a psychiatrist 

Hi I am old and left school at 15.  I am in the UK.  I went back to part time education in my 20's and got 3 'O' levels.  In my late 20's I got into University as a mature student and got my degree.  I couldn't study at all when at school because of depression so I always thought I was stupid and worthless too.  

Even if you never want to go back to education later what counts is using your life to do what you want and not everyone is cut out to be college material.  Maybe you are more technically minded instead?  It doesn't mean you are going to end up on skid row does it?  You are going to have a long and good life x