I am alcohol dependent and need your input!

Hello

Boredom could be partly the reason because I don't work.

I drink 5 cans of 4%s per day and when I'm feeling really upset I buy 6%s..

I fluctuate..

I QUESTION.., am I really addicted because I feel I wait around for the money to come in and then I get out of control..

I don't know how to stop myself

How do I stop that alarm clock in my head ..

Then if I try to stop myself I feel I want to go and have a drink more..

It's crazy .,!!

Thank you getting back to me

I don't know much about you...but based on what info you have given me...I'm going to profile you ....LOL.

I assume you are young....and because of the amount you drink...the way you look forward to it....and waiting for this money for the alcohol...tells me that you have an alcoholic relationship with alcohol.

When I was younger..my pattern was very similar (drinking 5...and really upset...going to 6-7).  No one that doesn't have a "problem" with alcohol....drinks even 5 cans of beer.

What can you do?  Well, its a good thing that you have found us to talk to..it always feels better to talk to people that understand what you are going thru.

There is medication you can take to lessen your drinking. (Naltraxone)

There is medication you can take to lessen your desire to drink (Campral).

Those are really the only two choices....

I think you are addicted and i think the only reason you wait for the money is because without the money...you can't get it..if you could..I think you would drink more and more often.

What size cans are we talking, Jess? How long have you managed to go without in the past?

Good reply to Jess from Missy. And Joel good reply about hobbies..you need to make some changes in life Jess..Robin

Missy I use to drink 6 cans of beer a day 6%s ...for 7 days non stop .. Sometimes more

Well done lorilin - go girl. My detox has been deferred yet again because of blood pressure issues - so frustrated. My husband asking me why I bother living doesn't help too much. Back to the recovery center on Monday to see if the detox can begin. Feel as though the heavens are conspiring against me to not let this start, there have been so many stupid hiccups over the past 4 weeks 😞

Well done lorillin

That's amazing .. You stopped!!

Did DETOX help you to stop?

The medication?

I heard that helps .. And in UK you have to be in rehab for 6 months to have community detox.

What do they do to you there to help you stop drinking ?

What changes?

How long did it take for you to stop??

ALSO THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR YOUR INPUT.. I APPRECIATE IT .. KEEP IT COMING !!

Lorillin my partner suggested he keeps my credit card .. Buys me a crate of beers and then give me 3 cans a day .. Then eventually 2 a day wtc ..

Do you think that would work ?

Or do you think it won't work?

Lorillin

Since you have conquered the drink and stopped completely ..

You are just amazing .. An inspiration ..

I struggle I get anxious when I know the money is in my account .. I JUST NEED A DRINK THEN..

But during the week even if I don't have money in the past I use to ask people for money to buy for drink .. I've stopped that now I'm over that now due to rehab ..but NOW only a few days ago I realised I have an alarm clock in me that wakes the drinking side of me up when the money comes in.

All this time I never realised it ...

I plan to speak to my psychologist soon to discuss this and see how I can move forward

Good plan Jess. Il ike it! Robin

Ooops I actually also meant that Lorillin made a good plan and seeing a specialist is a good plan. Robin

Thank you Jess. Trust me I was not successful for years and at one point just accepted my fate as an alcoholic until almost a month ago. I don't know where the strength came from but I can assure u I don't take it for granted. I'm so thankful. I think there's a night and day difference in me. My one month is coming up I think I will feel much better when it's my one year but ill get there. Again its just something inside me that knows I have this gift. I hope and wish to inspire others. Truly do. I was hopeless at one point. I can't even count how many rock bottoms I hit and laid there ashamed until I crawled out and started drinking again. Something else I did that I believe helped me is I disconnected my cell phone for a bit. I only have my landline in case of emergencies but this ensures me my drinking buddies can't question me via text or ask me what's up. This is my journey and I'm just not ready to hear any one else's opinions on it right now .... except for you guys here

I'm not sure if that will work or not. I know for me when I asked my partner to limit me and then he would try I would get downright awful and hateful and mean to get my way of drinking more. But for me I couldn't stop myself. There was NO drinking a drink or two to relax. It was all about getting drunk. I denied that but that's the truth and I no longer live in denial so make sure u ask yourself the same thing before you even attempt this

You hang in there because you are worth it and you will beat this. One day at a time. Don't give up hope. Think positive. Keep your mind in a positive place and let's see what happens Monday.

Aww numpty - you will get there with our help and your detox.  Your other half is rather cruel to say the least - all the more reason to beat this and come out fighting the other side.  I personally would make it my biggest mission.  Good luck for Monday and fingers crossed to get the wheels in motion..................G.

Thank you sweetie. We'll see next week x

Thank you Gwen. I now realise I have to do this for myself before anyone else. My husband thinks I will be back to 'miss sexy lover' when I get rid of the drink - big shock - it's never going to happen with him!!!!!

wow..lol...that made me laugh

Miss Sexy lover...they don't get that THEY have to do work as well.

Its not just about US putting down the drink.

Its about them....being men....the men we met...the attentive...loving..men.

Yep Misssy. He doesn't realise that I will never be that person again. Age, menopause and being pee'd off with him are just minor things in the equation!!!!!

yea..they don't realize THEY need to do work too.

I outwardly told my significant other..that I am not the only one that has to do WORK for our relationship to thrive.

And then it gets quiet around here..lol...cause WORK at any level is hard..but I figure..I don't DRINK...so...he needs to do something amazing as well.

Open doors for me...cook for me..do SOMETHING other than complain that your sex life is not the same! LOL

Jess, have a look at this too:

https://patient.info/health/sinclair-method-for-alcohol-use-disorder

Sounds kind of like you tend to binge? If so, how long between your binges? 

Yep Misssy. Pity they keep their brains in their pants!!! I don't know why he thinks that me getting away from drink will magically turn me into a nyphomanic - not gonna happen, uhuh no way Hosea

yea, I would like to be a man for one day just to see what it is like to feel that way all the time.

Hahaha 😂