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I am at the end of my tether. Peri-Menopause?

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Sally4x
Sally4x

Hi  - I have been a member here for a few weeks and have been reading things, but I am wanting to ask or scream to know if peri-menopause is that I am experiencing. Most of the time I feel like I am losing the plot or dying. 

I am 47 now but this all started a few days after my 44th birthday when I suddenly started feeling light headed and had some vertigo. That quickly passed but I am left with so many symptoms. They mostly are fatigue, daily headaches, very painful neck and shoulders, a very odd spaced out sensation and vision like I am wearing really strong glasses - everything looks surreal, I have anxiety like I have never known, I get a tight chest, a lump in my throat, my body feels like a lump of lead, spots, eczema, muscle twitches and my periods have changed with the cycle becoming shorter to 22 days and the bleeding lighter. I also get period pains lasting for a week before my period starts and painful heavy breasts. 

I have had a head MRI and CT scan, heart tests, blood tests and it is all normal. But i feel so ill all the time. I rarely leave the house I feel so ill. I don't feel like me anymore. My family is suffering. I have no idea what is happening to me! And I also habe no idea what to do about it! 

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  • nikiola18292
    nikiola18292 Sally4x

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    Hi, 😃

    yes it sounds like perimenopause. I am now 56 and remember i started to feel weird around 47, had panic attacks and felt the same as you, feeling like im going mad and dying. Its so awful what hormones can do to your state of mind. I had terrible anxiety to.

    I got through it. Although after (i think) a year of no periods i have recently had 2 postmenopausal bleeds together with a bucket load of hormonal/emotional crap. I have had it checked out with ultrasound and ok, have 3cm Dermoid Cyst.

    I completely sympathise with you, the only thing i found really helpful was trying some mindfulness and not dwelling on the negative and exercise. If i let myself I can go down a rabbit hole of worry.

    Go to your GP and get your FSH levels checked, don't be concerned if it comes back normal they are hard to nail, as they fluctuate so much, chances are if you are feeling like this you are peri-menopausal, it took me having them done 3 times to get a peri reading when i was 50, and i was feeling the same as all the other times i had the test.

    Magnesium also helps with mood.

    Niki

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