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lorraine82629
lorraine82629

I have been abusing alcohol for years. My family are suffering and my work is being affected. I got drunk on Tuesday and called work and spoke to a work colleague, then demanded I speak to others in the office. My senior manager was not happy and I made a fool of myself. I feel so ashamed and cannot face anyone, I have locked myself away. I have been called selfish and don't know what to do. I just keep thinking of a drink. Any advice would be great. I feel so alone x

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  • linda85269
    linda85269 lorraine82629

    Posted

    Don't feel alone there are a lot of us here for you and are dealing with the same issues. Please see GP because there is hep out there.
    • lorraine82629
      lorraine82629 linda85269

      Posted

      Thank you Linda. I saw my gp yesterday and I am being put on a detox programme. I have to face work on Monday. I don't know how to handle it. Your advice is much appreciated x
    • lorraine82629
      lorraine82629 PaulJTurner1964

      Posted

      Yes. I feel that I will lose my job. My detox does not start until next week x thanks for your reply x
    • linda85269
      linda85269 lorraine82629

      Posted

      Please try to stay positive. Do you have an Hr dept because all companies have a duty of care and I'm sure if you explain in confidence that to aim to do something about things then they can't just be rid of you! They have to give you a chance!
    • PaulJTurner1964
      PaulJTurner1964 lorraine82629

      Posted

      The reason I asked, Lorraine, is that you shouldn't be going to work while undergoing a detox and I am shocked if your GP thinks that you can.
    • keith02
      keith02 lorraine82629

      Posted

      Hi Lorraine, first of all, well done on going to your GP and taking the first steps to deal with your problem. I did the same a couple of weeks ago after 10 years of not dealing with it, and I didn't realise that it was such a big step until my GP told me I should be proud of myself. And so should you be proud of yourself! It might not all be plain sailing all the time, but you've made the first move. I've found this forum to be a huge huge help too.

      I feel for you on the work thing. I read your post this afternoon and when I was driving home tonight I remembered I did something similar years ago...got really drunk at the xmas night out when I was a management trainee and got really upset and told my boss he was a c*** in front of some of the staff and stormed out of the hotel. i don't even know why i did it as he was a great boss lol! when it all came back to me the next day, I was more than mortified, I was shaking and breaking out in a cold sweat. I had to phone him to apologise and dreaded going in on the Monday.  It was OK in the end, maybe detected a few sniggers behind my back if I remember but I just had to brazen it out, and said something like "no idea what came over me, i'm not used to drinking wine".

      Remember that even if a few eyebrows were raised at the time, most people will have forgotten by now, it'll be yesterday's news. Think how you sort things out with your boss if it's still on his/her mind and you can always laugh it off with colleagues as going out for a boozy lunch with a friend and having one too many....they'll all have done it :-)

  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 lorraine82629

    Posted

    Best of luck to you Lorraine. All replies are fine and Keith summed it up and people DO forget quickly. Try and shrug it off..yes I have been a bit silly but feel much better and how are you by the way?? That might work..most importantly: do try and stay on the detox programme.
  • anette78616
    anette78616 lorraine82629

    Posted

    I haven't read all the posts as I'm new to his site too. Lorraine Antabuse is the solution. I remained sober while on it for three years. Then I stopped and was back to my old habits.! I was a chronic binge drinker. I've done Aa, rehab and have even had heart attacks when I've been detoxing. I only weigh 47Kg and at points I was drinking sevent five shots of alcohol a day. Antabuse saved me. I'm back on it again and have been sober for close to three months. A friend who is an alcoholic saw me on it then off it. She saw the difference and has gone on Antabuse herself. I'm now back at medical school that I gave up seven years ago because of my drinking,.'please try it it will save your life. 
    • PaulJTurner1964
      PaulJTurner1964 anette78616

      Posted

      I have to say, Anette, that few doctors will prescribe antabuse these days. It is extremely dangerous and people can die if they drink with it. I am glad it has worked for you but there are much more modern and very much more effective treatments available now. You clearly heeded the warnings about not drinking while on antabuse, there are, unfortunately, many who either don't heed the warnings or they simply can't help themselves.

      Years back, I worked in an NHS alcohol treatment facility where antabuse was used. It was the only real physical treatment back then but so many people failed. One girl stopped taking her antabuse a week before her 21st birthday so that she could have a drink.

      Withor without antabuse, people do finally succeed after a few attempts at quitting drinking but the most effective method is The Sinclair Method which is achieving a success rate of 78% in Finland. The best treatment centres using behavioural (punitive) treatment programmes, achieve less than 10% success rate.

      You will see plenty of discussion of The Sinclair Method and Nalmefene (the most recent drug being used for it) in this forum.

      Congratulations on getting your life back on track and getting back to medical school smile

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